Why Bad Boys Get Girls (But You Don’t)

Have you ever wondered why bad boys, with very little going for them, can get a girl but you can’t? While we don’t advocate any guy become a jerk,  bad boys do a few things right, which I explain in my newest Thought Catalog article.

Jonathan Tackles Dating Mistakes At Digital Romance

Jonathan’s newest article for Digital Romance is 4 Important Dating Mistakes Men Constantly Make. Check it out!

Congratulations to National Champions Ohio State

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The Ohio State University Buckeyes are the national champions of college football. It was an improbable run. Underestimated by everyone, they got very little respect, especially from so-called experts. They not only lost their first string quarterback to injury, but their second string , as well. When they won the championship game, it was with their third stringer. He did just fine.

Sure, I’m from Ohio and an OSU fan, so I’m biased. But, it’s hard to argue with the team’s grit, toughness, and flexibility. Coach Urban Meyer deserves a lot of the credit. His leadership skills kept the team motivated and fighting through the adversity and doubt. Even I was shocked by the team getting into the playoffs, beating Alabama, and then winning the championship game. I guess I didn’t believe like they did.

The Buckeyes displayed the traits that we try to teach here: toughness, flexibility, confidence, and quiet swagger. They were underestimated, but came through. That is what we expect of the guys we help. No one expects them to succeed. But, we help them pull it together and develop the confidence to surprise others and find success in what they attempt.

Congratulations to the Ohio State Buckeyes! It was a great win. You deserve it!

The Five Worst Pieces of Advice People Give Single Guys

I just wrote my newest article on Thought Catalog, listing a few of the crazy pieces of advice virtually every single guy has been told. The problem is that this advice is horrible and counter-productive. Have a look!

Mistakes Women Make In Dating

This is my latest for Michael Fiore’s great website. It’s for women, so read it to confirm what you probably already know, or pass it along to female friends. It’s Four Important Dating Mistakes Women Make. In two weeks, I’ll talk about the men.

New Year Dating Resolutions

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Image courtesy of franky242 at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

It’s almost 2015. If you’re single or having relationship issues, then it’s probably time for a change, especially if you’ve been having the same issues for years. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results. Well, for the new year, it’s time to try something different. Here are four New Year dating resolutions you should try.

Meet Someone New Each Day

It’s hard to meet new people if you are in a closed little world. It’s so easy to get in ruts at work, with friends, and even families. While loyalty and bonds are great, if you don’t step out of your comfort zone, you’ll never meet anyone new.

If you’re single, that new person could be the man or woman of your dreams. Or maybe a good new friend. Or maybe nothing. But, you never know until you try. If you resolve to approach and at least talk to someone new every day your odds of finding your partner or at least getting a few dates will go up considerably.

Give (More) People A Chance

We all have an image of our ideal date in our head or a mental list of what we find attractive. Some people have a physical list and refuse to deviate from it at all!

While I firmly believe in having standards in dating, some people are constantly single because they are just too picky. They might not date a guy under 6′ or give a girl a chance who doesn’t have the perfect body. However, attraction isn’t logical and doesn’t operate according to lists. Unless, of course, we make it that way.

So, this year, keep your core standards, but give someone a chance you normally wouldn’t, at least for a date. Having an open mind could help you meet the partner of your dreams.

Improve Yourself

I don’t care what you look like or who you are, you can improve yourself. And, the better you are, the more attractive you will be to others. Work on your confidence, get healthier, buy a new wardrobe, resolve to get a better job, and so on. If you want other people to find you attractive, then work harder at being attractive.

Learn a new skill, start a new workout (and stick with it), take a college course. Find something to pursue this year that leads to self-improvement. It should lead to more dates too.

Get Some Help

If a person has a problem with their body or a gadget or anything, they usually go out and get it fixed by someone who knows about the topic. However, with relationships most people are reluctant to admit they need help. But, there’s no shame in admitting that you’re not quite winning the dating game. Even the best athletes still need coaches.

This year, resolve to get some dating help. We do consulting and have written several books on the topic. In addition, for Columbus, Ohio residents, we partner with amazing matchmakers and dating experts. If it’s a choice between another year single and getting help, don’t be stubborn. Reach out!

So, don’t let 2015 be lonely and painful. Get on those New Year dating resolutions. When you’re bringing in 2016 with the love of your life you’ll be glad you did.