Are You Too Picky?

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When I was in high school, I was friends with a guy who wasn’t exactly a ladies man. While I wasn’t exactly a ladies man either, I could at least luck into a few dates. This guy, while cool, was very overweight and pretty shy around girls. Yet, he always tried to date some of the most beautiful girls in the school.

While I give him credit for not going after girls he didn’t find attractive, he still remained single. It was because his value didn’t line up to the value of the girls he tried to date.

Let’s look at it using money. If I go to a gas station and try to pay for a fill-up with a pack of gum, I’m likely going to get laughed at (or arrested). The values simply don’t line up.

You have to keep this in mind when dating as well. If you are shy, lacking in social skills, and have little going for you, then it’s highly doubtful that you’re going to score yourself a beautiful, amazing woman. Now, it might be possible, but it’s not likely.

If you’re a guy who’s extremely lonely and dateless, then it’s possible that you’re too picky. If you’re a decent, average guy who can at least talk to women, then you can likely get yourself at least a date or two. But, if you’re always trying to win over the 10 everywhere you go, then maybe it’s time to set your sights a bit lower.

Or, you have another option: raise your own value. That’s the most difficult option, but also the most rewarding.

Fortunately for guys, raising their value isn’t tied to looks and can be done at most any age. The best way for a guy to increase his attractiveness to women is to get more power in his life. Make more money, take on a leadership position, etc. Losing weight and getting fit will help because those are signs of an ability to control one’s own body.

Of course, the best way? Confidence. Women, especially those you just meet, don’t know whether you really are a badass or if you’re just bluster. It doesn’t matter. So, while you should find ways to become more valuable as a man, even just faking it goes a long way winning over the ladies.

So, are you too picky? Perhaps. You might have to settle with less beautiful women a little more if you want to get dates. Or, you can up your game and actually date any woman you want. Fortunately, we have tips to do just there, both at this blog and in our book, Be Popular Now.

About Jonathan Bennett

Jonathan Bennett is a writer, speaker, dating expert, and business owner. His articles have been viewed millions of times, and he has been featured in a variety of publications, including the Wall Street Journal.

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