We advise our clients to have positive attitudes to allow them to totally change their lives. And, to go out and share those changes with others. T Obviously, that’s easier said than done! However, today I’m going to give you a tip that will help you change your mindset.
Scientists now know the adult brain is “neuroplastic.” This means that brain wiring, as well as the patterns and beliefs it contains, can be altered.
The old belief that your personality is set by the time you’re twenty-five is thankfully false. Although adult brains don’t have the neuroplasticity of children (think about how quickly they can learn a language), with enough effort, even older people can successfully alter their brain wiring.
One way to have a successful, positive, and confident outlook is to constantly practice being successful, positive, and confident. However, that can be tough with years and years of negative brain wiring.
A way to speed up the process is to use affirmations. These are statements you repeat often about what you want to accomplish and who you want to be. It’s like when a cheering crowd gets a losing team back in the game. Affirmations help you convince yourself to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.
When it comes to writing and saying affirmations, I always advise people to use the language of process. For example, if an unpopular person says, “I am popular” to himself, even if it’s a thousand times, his brain will likely counter (a thousand times) with “sure you are!” That defeats the purpose. However, if that same person says “I am becoming more popular everyday” it disarms the brain.
The best thing for you to do if you want to be your best self is to write down the goals you want to achieve. They could be to become popular, get a better job, date beautiful women, etc.
Next, craft affirmations that reflect your goals. For example, you could say “I am attracting a better job” or “I am meeting the girl of my dreams.” Write these down (using the language of process) in a book or somewhere else too. Then, repeat them throughout the day, especially when you are relaxed or during a meditation time.
Start soon and don’t stop using your affirmations. Change them as your goals change or you achieve those goals.
For more information on affirmations, you can read this affirmations book that is great. It explains all of the above in more detail.