Do Pick Up Lines Work?

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Pick up lines are an integral part of the dating game for many guys, although some people wonder if they should be used at all. Men scour the internet to find the best ones even though women consistently say they hate them. People make fun of the bad ones while continuing to use the allegedly good ones.

However, the main question is this (or at least should be): do pick up lines work? That’s a question this article will answer in some detail. As with many things in life, the answer is basically a mix of yes and no. First, let’s look at the no side of the equation.

Attracting a woman is a process. Granted, it’s typically a short one since attraction is very visceral and somewhat instant. But it’s still a process that lasts longer than a three second pick up line, contrary to what guys who stake their success on a “line” think.

So, obsessing over the choice and delivery of a pick up line isn’t the best use of time when preparing to approach a woman. Can a guy with a great opener, but nothing else, count on a pick up line to save his butt and get a phone number. No way.

Also, pickup lines are typically canned and boring. They come from the internet or a book. They’re used over and over. And, they’re often delivered awkwardly because they’re someone else’s material! This probably contributes to the hatred women have of pick up lines. Clumsily delivering someone else’s lines comes across as pretty low value.

Also, when answering the question do pick up lines work, it’s important to mention that pick up lines are often used in settings like clubs or bars where women are already highly guarded. They know the pick up lines are coming and they have their defenses ready. So, those pickup lines either have to be spectacular and delivered perfectly or they fail.

However, pick up lines can work. But, there are a few things to keep in mind when delivering them.

First, it’s best to come up with your own lines and make them original and observational. So, think of something based on the club, the person you’re talking to, etc. You have originality and rapport building instantly in your favor. Both are high value traits.

Second, make your pickup lines funny and somewhat edgy. Avoid corny jokes and don’t be afraid to tease the girl. As long as you’re flirty and smiling, teasing is not only acceptable, but women love it.

A good example of an observational, teasing pickup line would be going up to a woman in a bright dress and saying something like, “Hey nice dress…I think. I can only look at it for two seconds at a time.” Say this while smiling. You don’t want her thinking you’re being a total jerk.

Third, stop thinking about pick up lines and start thinking of routines or longer strategies. Your opener should be one (small) part of an entire package. Your strategy should be to open, build rapport, and close.

You should also have general routines in the back of your mind, but also think on your feet. A high value man can impress a girl, make her laugh, get to know her through conversation, then get her number.

So, do pick up lines work? The answer is mixed, but if you follow the advice here and throughout this website, you’ll have a better chance of not only succeeding in your opener, but also going home with a number or more.

About Jonathan Bennett

Jonathan Bennett is a writer, speaker, dating expert, and business owner. His articles have been viewed millions of times, and he has been featured in a variety of publications, including the Wall Street Journal.

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