We’ve all met women who seem a little different than their fellow females. They may look a little more masculine, and act more like men in their attitudes. They may have even been called “tomboys” growing up.
The differences between these women and more traditionally feminine ones may be that more masculine women had more testosterone exposure in the womb, which shaped their developing brain. Many even have more testosterone in them now than other women. These women are high testosterone or “High T” women. Other ladies (the majority) are higher in estrogen .
For guys, since most women have higher levels of estrogen, the usual dating advice we give applies to how you handle them. This article will explain the traits of the rarer, high testosterone women and what it means to date them.
Traits of High Testosterone Women
The hormone that makes men manly is testosterone. What makes women feminine is estrogen. However, all sexes have varying amounts of both chemicals in their bodies.
Higher estrogen men tend to look and act more feminine (e.g. baby faces, man boobs, etc.). Higher testosterone women tend to look and act in more masculine ways. And a lot of “high T” women have had higher levels of testosterone since they were in their moms’ wombs.
So, High T women typically have more mannish features: taller, bigger hands and feet, lacking curves, more prominent jawbone, deeper voices, etc. In fact a recent study showed that higher androgen exposure in the womb leads to manlier faces in women.
This isn’t to say these women are ugly or extremely manly. In many cases the more masculine features are there, but subtle. And, the women are still objectively pretty.
The biggest differences, however, seem to come in how high testosterone women think and act.
For example, even as children, they draw differently than other girls. They show a preference for objects over people in terms of interaction, a trait they share with males. They just generally tend to think and act more like men, including in their activity preferences. High T girls are more competitive, take more risks, pursue power, compartmentalize their emotions, are more sexually aggressive, and have different tastes in men. They also may tend to be tomboys, something which, like the other traits mentioned above, likely goes back to prenatal testosterone exposure.
And, don’t assume that high-T women are gay, at least not the women who were exposed to higher levels of testosterone while in the womb. One study found that most of these women are heterosexual. More rarely, some are bisexual, but very few are fully homosexual in orientation.
While it is debated, and studies are conflicting, some research suggests that you can tell if a woman had higher testosterone exposure in the womb by looking at her fingers, and their relationship to one another. People with higher testosterone exposure in the womb will often have ring fingers longer than their index fingers (most men and high-T women). People with higher estrogen exposure will will often have longer index fingers than ring fingers. Look at the images below. The first is David’s hand. The second is his daughter’s.
High Testosterone Women And Dating
When dating High T women or trying to date them, it’s important to keep a few things in mind. While these tips are specific, the one overarching theme is that these ladies think and act more like dudes. Not completely, but enough that it can change the dating game with them quite a bit.
You’re not dealing with a man stuck in a woman’s body. They still have the emotional and mental traits of women. But, you probably are dealing with a girl who, especially at times, thinks and acts a lot more like a man than most other women on the planet.
High testosterone women tend to be more assertive and aggressive with other women and even men. This could be a good thing for guys who are more passive.
Unlike with high estrogen women, the guy may not have to do the majority of the work in approaching and closing. He may not have to do much at all! High T women sometimes aggressively pursue men.
These women are also sometimes less bound by the traditional confines of female taste. A lot of men aren’t choosy about the women they pursue, so long as they are pretty (at least for casual purposes). High T women are similar. They’re often willing to date shorter guys, fatter guys, and other men who may not receive favorable treatment from women with more traditional tastes.
It sounds like the high testosterone woman would be a dream come true. However, that’s not really the case. Because, just like with some high powered men, these woman can be hard to please over the long haul and have a tendency towards promiscuity. She might choose you, but not for long. She also may ultimately need a man a lot more powerful than herself, and that probably isn’t very many men.
This means, when dealing with high testosterone women and dating, that you’ll always have to bring your A game and keep it up. Some guys find it exhausting and have a hard time keeping the relationship strong. However, other guys like High T women because they find them exciting and unique.
When approaching a high testosterone woman, you can probably be rougher around the edges and more direct than usual. Use your lines and routines, but you’d better make sure they aren’t corny or sappy. Approach her in a similar way as you’d approach a man you’d like to meet, but one that looks like a hot female. It’ll likely impress her and be more effective.
So, hopefully you can better understand high testosterone women and even date a few. Many of them are fun and awesome people. They can also be pretty different from their fellow females.