When I was younger, I watched a movie about a lonely woman finding love on Christmas. Her life was a mess and she had been single for years. But, all it took was a little Christmas magic and the perfect guy came into her life…just in time for Christmas Eve.
The more I thought about it, the pressure to be “in a relationship” at Christmastime is intense. Being paired up at the holidays is celebrated in movies, songs, and other areas of popular culture. Not only that, but if you show up to a Christmas party alone, you feel like a freak.
As a result of this pressure, or just general loneliness, you might be wanting to find romance for Christmas and looking for holiday dating tips to help you achieve your goal.
This article will walk you through several holiday dating tips, all designed to help you find romance. You might not wake up with a partner in a red bow under your tree. But, these tips will help you work towards finding a quality relationship.
Ditch The Timeline
In my university days, I felt such pressure to be in a relationship at Christmas, that it became a minor obsession. And, if you know anything about being overly attached, it causes anxiety and actually hurts your efforts to achieve your goals.
So, if you’re looking for Christmas dating tips with the goal of having a girlfriend or boyfriend by December 25th, you’re putting yourself under a lot of pressure. Meeting someone, connecting with him or her, getting out on dates, and “getting in a relationship” within a month aren’t easy tasks.
So, ditch the timeline. Don’t put such pressure on yourself that your anxiety cripples you or you settle with the first person that comes your way. Both are bad. Instead, focus on having fun, being your best self, and meeting new people. Believe it or not, detachment frees you to be successful in many areas. If you relax, let go, and meet new people, you might not technically be “in a relationship” by Christmas, but you’ll be well on your way for future relationship happiness.
Attend Holiday Parties And Events
If you love getting out and meeting new people, you can’t find a better time of the year to do that than Christmas. And, when you get out and go to Christmas parties and events, guess what you’re going to do there? Meet people! And, meeting people is the best way to get into a quality relationship.
So, try to find holiday parties and events. Make sure you choose parties and events that have 3 traits.
First, make sure they include a social element. If you want to meet someone new to date, any event must involve enough social activity to talk to new people, bond with them, and ideally get their contact information.
Second, pick an activity that has the potential for a lot of people to show up. There’s strength in numbers. If there are 20 people in a crowded room, it’ll be easier to talk to strangers and possibly find someone you like vs. only 3 people standing awkwardly.
Finally, choose an event that will have people you’d actually want to date. For example, attending Christmas caroling might be fun, but if you’re a 20-something guy, make sure it’s caroling with a university group rather than a knitting circle for elderly women.
You can likely find parties and events among your family, friends, and co-workers. Utilize those. Also, check out Meetup, Eventbrite, and Facebook Events for public holiday events. They all have apps too. Usually your local media will advertise Christmas and other holiday parties, as well.
Wear An Ugly Sweater
I own a few ugly Christmas sweaters that I start wearing right after Thanksgiving. I do this, not because I’m a big Christmas person, but because I enjoy being funny and meeting new people. Wearing a Christmas sweater or Christmas shirt of any kind, especially one that is funny, is a great conversation starter.
If you want to meet interesting new people, then go out with a funny, witty Christmas sweater, in crowded, public settings. You’d be amazed how much attention you’ll get for sticking out in this positive way.
Of course, if random, attractive people talk to you about your sweater, then you’ll need to actually respond to them with genuine conversation. And, if you build a degree of rapport, you can even get the other person’s phone number or add him or her on social media. It all starts with an ugly Christmas sweater! We wrote an article that explains more about using an ugly Christmas sweater to meet new people.
Many people who are single, especially perpetually, often don’t take initiative in dating, or at least not enough of it. Simply throwing up an online profile and waiting might not be enough to help you find romance at Christmas, or any time of the year. Are you attractive? Do you message first? If you connect with someone, do you ask for his or her number?
The holidays are a great time to reinvent yourself. While there is no such thing as Christmas magic, if you put in more effort than usual, you’ll discover that more success will come your way. So, talk to that person even if you’re nervous, ask for a phone number if you fear rejection, put yourself out there even if you haven’t in the past. There’s no time like the present! And, Christmas magic comes to those who work hard (and smart) at dating.
Expand Your Horizons
You might be a picky person with “high standards.” I put those words in quotes because many people have standards that aren’t very well thought out. I’d advise you to go through what you think is essential for a relationship and write that down.
Think about what you truly want, not what your mother wants or your best friend tells you that you should want in a man or woman. And, ditch what isn’t essential.
So, if you’re looking for holiday dating tips, the best advice might be to have an open mind and expand your horizons. If you feel attracted to a man or woman you meet, give that person a chance even if he or she doesn’t meet numbers 1-33 of your checklist.
These tips should help you find love for the holidays (or start the process). If you want general dating tips, we invite you to visit our Dating Category Page (for men) and For Women Category for more helpful, general tips.