There is a strange gravitational force that appears in photos of some men with pretty women. A guy appears to be close to a girl and have his arm around her…yet, his hand seems to mysteriously hover away from her arm, waist, or any other body part.
This phenomenon even has a name: hover hand. In fact, it’s even become a meme on the internet.
I’ve seen it in prom photos, poses with celebrities, and especially pictures where guys are “stuck in the friend zone” with the woman. Even when guys are hanging out with girls they are supposedly dating, you’ll see the hover hand start to occur.
Like me, you probably cringe when you see it. Maybe you sad for the guy. Personally, I feel both of those things. So, why would a guy ever do this awkward “hover hand” pose?
Lack of Confidence
Guys who do the hover hand typically do it for one simple reason: lack of confidence. The less confident the guy, and the more beautiful the woman, the more you’ll see hover hand. It’s especially the case in new social situations. I promise that if you could get in the guy’s head, he’d be filled with anxiety and insecurity, wondering what heck he should do?!
A guy who does a hover hand on a girl (or anyone) shows that he can’t own the situation. He can’t just put his arm around her and see what happens. He fears touching her for whatever reason, so hover hand is the result.
It looks weird in photos because it appears the guy doesn’t want to be there or doesn’t like the other person. Or, he seems super insecure. All are true in a way. The guy with the hover hand is likely so nervous, he doesn’t know what to do! Plus, photos usually happen quickly. That means he doesn’t have time to think through what he even really wants to do.
How To Avoid Hover Hand
If you are in situations where you’re likely to be in photos, then you need to own those moments. I don’t care if it’s some girl you just met at a concert or an old friend. Put your arm around the person like you actually like her (if that’s expected).
Don’t be overtly inappropriate or go into sexual harassment. Also, don’t squeeze too hard! But, grasp her firmly and confidently. Don’t give any hint of a hover hand, especially if she puts her arm around you. If you’re dating her, then grab her like you’re…dating her. This isn’t that difficult people!
If you don’t feel comfortable touching her, then don’t put your arm around her to begin with. Otherwise, you’re just looking insecure. If you do put your arm around her or you’re expected to, own it and avoid the hover hand.
If you are worried about being appropriate, then just put your arm around her shoulder and don’t grab too tightly. This is usually socially acceptable. If you can put it around her middle rib area or even lower, then go for it. However, only do this if you know she likes you and wants more!
However, you probably want to stick to the shoulder area unless it’s someone you know well. Even then, be careful, especially at work. You don’t want to be accused of harassment or anything negative. The best thing to do in work photos is to avoid putting your arm around anyone, male or female. But, just put your hands to the side. Don’t use the awkward hover hand.
If you get nervous, just remember that as a confident, attractive guy, you must own your actions and your space. Bring her confidently into your space and your world. If you’re in a photo and she locks arms with you, you belong there! Don’t doubt yourself. Make it your photo. This is just the way it works with confident men. Better to try than look like a loser for all eternity by being the guy whose hover hand photo is shared on the net.
If she doesn’t like you putting your arm around her, then she’ll tell you. And, at that point, you know what you do? You remove your arm! It’s not that complicated. Confident, high value guys don’t force themselves on women, in any situation.
So, next time you get a chance to be in a photo, resist the force (i.e. anxiety) that leads to hover hand. Confidently and firmly put your arm around that girl! Own the situation and banish the embarrassing hover hand forever.