With the rise of social media and constant smartphone access, what people used to do in person is now accomplished by messaging. And, this includes everything related to love and romance. If you don’t know how to communicate with someone over text, then forming a romantic relationship will be harder than ever!
So, if you’re a woman and want to date a guy, it’s vital that you know a few tips and tricks about texting him. Some women might not need any help. But, not everyone has the magic touch.
But, if you’re wondering how to ask a guy out over text, you know the issue can be a little more complicated. For the most part, women don’t ask guys out. But, research shows that when women take the initiative they benefit in many ways.
So, if you ask a guy out rather than waiting for him to ask you, then you’re increasing your odds of success and a quality relationship.
Do It In Person
I know this is an article about texting, but I still want to add this section. Ideally, you would want to ask a guy out in person or at least share your feelings in that way. These kinds of things typically work so much better in person.
However, as you know, we don’t live in an ideal world. So, for many women, the best way to proceed when you want to ask a guy out is to do it over text. If you know you will only be able to do it over Snapchat, text, Instagram, Facebook or any other app, it’s better than not doing it at all.
Many women still prefer the more traditional method of the guy making the first move. And, there’s nothing wrong with that. However, if that feels unnatural or you’d just prefer he does most of the work, then you can do your part by dropping hints and getting him to make the move.
Flirt with him, give him attention, send him pictures of yourself (clean) over Snapchat, and do anything you think will let him know you like him.
One of the best ways to drop hints is to bring up events you think are interesting. Then, mention you would like to go. So, you could text, “there’s a really cool concert at Old Town tonight. It would be fun to go.”
Guys don’t usually pick up on social cues very easily when it comes to attraction. So, if you drop what you think are obvious hints, he might not see it that way. Or, he might second guess himself. So, when you drop hints, you can be subtle, but definitely be persistent. If he’s dense or shy, you might have to cut through layers of denial and second guessing.
What if you’re not sure he likes you? It’s a risk to ask a guy out, especially if you have to see him at work or when you’re among friends.
That’s why you can ask in a more casual way. You definitely don’t have to say, “Hey, I like you a lot; let’s go out and see what happens.”
Instead, you can say something like “You’re really cool and I thought it would be fun to hang out this weekend.”
A statement like that doesn’t put a ton of pressure on him and is non-committal. If he says “yes,” you can start to get to know him and hopefully move the relationship in the romantic direction. If he says “no” it doesn’t have to be awkward because you just asked him to hang out with you.
Read The Signs
When knowing how to ask a guy out over text, the best thing to do is to look at the signs to see if he likes you first. That way, when you ask him out, you have a good idea of if he’s going to say “yes.” This is important because many people don’t ask others out because they fear rejection. By looking at the signs, you can see if he likes you first to save embarrassment.
First, you can look at his body language if you see him in person. Does he stare at you? Does he try to get close to you? If you see that he likes to be around you and seems interested in person, there’s a good chance he will say “yes” when you ask him out.
Second, look at how he engages you over text. Does he give you his best time and attention? Does he respond quickly with full sentences? Or, does he take his time and give you one word answers? If you see quick replies and meaningful engagement, then he probably likes you.
Finally, look at his personality. Is he outgoing or shy? If he’s outgoing and seems to have no issue asking girls out, why hasn’t he asked you out? It could be a red flag that he doesn’t feel attraction to you.
On the other hand, if he’s naturally shy and timid, he could secretly like you and you asking him out would be a dream come true for him!
Just Do It
When it comes to dating and relationships, the norm is timidity and second guessing. You can probably look back on many crushes where you said absolutely nothing and the guy got away. I’ve done the same thing, except with women.
Why look back with regret?
If you feel connected to a guy and he hasn’t taken the lead, then nothing should stop you from reaching out. It doesn’t matter if society says you shouldn’t do it or a friend might think it’s “inappropriate.” It’s your life and you have to live with the lack of decision.
So, if you want to ask a guy out over text, then do it! Send the message and ask him. You can be subtle, drop hints, and keep it casual. But, don’t hold back. In the end, he’ll probably appreciate your boldness.