It’s sad that I even have to write a post called how to be a man. But, an unusual combination of events, including birth control in the water supply (seriously), a feminized educational system and an increase in single motherhood (not badmouthing single mothers here, by the way) has made it necessary. Sadly, being a man doesn’t seem second nature to a lot of guys. And, they aren’t learning it at home or in other institutions.
But, the lack of initiative and masculinity by men hasn’t exactly been helping our society or the psychological health of the men themselves. After all, it’s hard when your biology is saying one thing and the media is saying another. So, while this list isn’t exhaustive, hopefully anyone reading this will have a better idea of how to be a man.
Live In The Real World
Men have typically done outdoors real world activities. They farmed, fought in battles, rode horses, built houses, and kept active and visible in their communities. They didn’t sit around all day in front of a computer or staring at a smart phone screen. These technologies are great, but they should be used to create opportunities in the real world.
Go on dates (or if you’re married, go out with your family), join clubs, play sports, become a pillar of your community. Stop starting at a screen (television included) and get involved where you need to be (out in the real world). We evolved to be outdoors and active, not sitting on our butts.
Embrace Traditionally Male Activities
Learn how to change a tire. Watch (or better yet play) sports. Run an extreme race or climb a mountain. Men throughout history have pursued certain activities and goals for a reason: evolution. Men are biologically programmed to enjoy various activities. Believe it or not hunting and sports are two examples. Sadly, modern institutions have tried to get men sitting still and quiet when male brains have evolved to do just the opposite!
While there’s no need to become a stereotype, don’t feel bad or guilty about liking and pursuing typical male activities, even if it’s not considered acceptable. And, no, playing video games doesn’t count.
Be A Leader
Men evolved to be providers and protectors. They provided for their families and communities and protected them. They stepped up. There’s far too little of that among men these days, especially when it comes to their families and communities.
Be a good father, take the lead at work, and get involved in your community. Far too often these roles have been taken by women. I have nothing against women leaders and appreciate their service to their families, companies, and communities. But, in many cases women have done this because of a vacuum; men have dropped out.
Drop back in. Take the lead. Start with your children. Show your daughters how a real man treats women and show your son how to be a man.
A lot of men think it’s unacceptable for them to have ambition and find success. They are taught to defer their own goals for the needs of others or to avoid male privilege (whatever that is anymore).
However, a man traditionally has sought to become valuable to the world. This has come through moving ahead at work, dating beautiful women, and having genuine accomplishments. Don’t be fooled. Learning how to be a man still involves seeking value.
When a man becomes more valuable and does it in an honest and excellent fashion, everyone benefits. Try to better yourself at all times. Look your best, act your best, and feel your best. If you are excellent, it will be better in the long run for your family, friends, neighbors, and children.
Hopefully these tips will help you in knowing how to be a man or at least a better man. Don’t be arrogant and overbearing. But, have pride in your masculinity and change your family, community, and the world for the better.