You text a girl you like and you wait. Then, you wait some more. Finally, after several hours you check her Snapchat, Facebook or Instagram and noticed she’s posted something. That’s when it hits you: you’re being ignored!
Then, you start to ask the question “why?” and the anxiety sets in. Almost every guy who’s tried to date in the last 5 years has experienced this feeling and the stress that comes with it.
Texting has revolutionized communication, which means that connecting with someone is no longer limited by space and time. If the person is with his or her phone (which is often the case), you have instant access to anyone anywhere 24/7. Of course, this is a blessing and a curse.
Instant access is great to build rapport quickly to get into a relationship. But, it’s extremely stressful when you aren’t getting messages in return. This article is going to explain how to get a girl to text you back when she is ignoring you. My goal is to ease some of your anxiety on the topic and, hopefully, help you reconnect with the woman you like.
Find Out Why She’s Not Responding
If a girl is ignoring you, then you need to decide why it’s happening. Her exact reason for not getting back to you is very important when deciding what to text her next. Here are the two primary scenarios.
First, she might not be ignoring you and you just need to chill out. When you have feelings for a girl, your brain goes a little haywire and can cause all sorts of anxiety. Remember, that women, like men, get busy. It’s possible that she’s not responding because she legitimately has something going on.
This could be work, a family event, she’s out of cell phone signal range, etc. If she is truly busy and you haven’t heard from her in a little while, take a few deep breaths and wait for her to message back. Don’t let anxiety take hold if she has a real excuse and it’s only been a small amount of time.
Second, she might be ignoring you for other reasons, some not so pleasant. She could be messaging someone else, doesn’t enjoy texting you, or doesn’t value you enough to make you a priority. You might have a crush on her, but she thinks of you as a friend. If this is the case, you might need to step up your texting game a little (or a lot).
Don’t Be Needy
Regardless of her reasons for not responding, you need to always keep in mind the one, unbreakable, infallible, absolute rule of knowing how to get a girl to text you back when she is ignoring you: Don’t be needy.
If she’s ignoring you and you send a bunch of double texts (or triple or worse) asking her where she is, what she’s doing, or saying “?????” or “please respond” it makes you look weak, desperate, and needy, which are very unattractive traits. So, never, ever be needy. But, if she’s ignored you for a day or two, then you can definitely try to resurrect the conversation…the right way
Create A Need
If someone texted you tomorrow that they had a job for you as a TV star, I’m sure you’d jump at the chance to respond. You might do it in seconds! The same is true of the woman you want to text. If the right person texted the right words (like a famous agent saying “I’ll make you a star”), she’d respond instantly and stay glued to her phone.
Unless you’re a famous agent, you’ll have to be more creative. But, you still might be able to send a message that creates a need for her to talk to you. Perhaps she enjoys mud runs and you just found a cool one. Maybe she’s looking for work and you know of a job in her field. If so, reach out and send a message.
Don’t lie or force the issue. But, if you can create a need for her to text you, then, she’ll be more likely to get back to you.
Get Her Invested In Replying
Don’t try to create a fake need or resort to lying. If you can’t come through, she’ll just be annoyed. Instead, send her a text that makes her feel invested in giving a reply. Usually, this means saying something that intrigues her enough to actually respond. Most guys will send, “hey” or “what’s up” or something similar. But, that’s boring and generic.
One line I’ve found that works much better is “I saw something today that reminded me of you.”
This line is perfect for a couple of reasons.
First, messaging out of the blue can be creepy to women. But, this line gives you a reason, so it appears that you didn’t just randomly message because you have ulterior motives (like you want to hook up).
Second, it’s personal to her and should intrigue her enough (if she likes you a little bit) to know what it was you saw that made you think of her. Make sure that you actually did see something that reminded you of her (or find something that does). You don’t want to lie or stretch the truth. If you know her well, you should have no problem with this.
I’ve written a “How To Resurrect A Text Conversation” report that you can download for free if you want to know a few more creative lines to send if you think she’s ignoring you. Check it out!
So, while this advice will help you with the actual text to send to a woman who is ignoring you, don’t neglect the overall need for being attractive and interesting over message. If you’re truly engaging, fun, and keep her intrigued, you should have no trouble getting her texting you often.
In fact, attractive guys know how to text to get women hanging on their every word. I invite you to check out our texting advice category for tips to entertain her, make her laugh, and be more interesting over message.
Remember, you never have to worry about what to say when you’re being ignored if she doesn’t ignore you to begin with!