A good friend of mine has a great relationship with his girlfriend. It’s clear that they don’t just tolerate each other, but are truly in love. You can tell their feelings for each other because of their genuine smiles when they’re around each other.
One time I was hanging out with him and he received a text from his girlfriend. He got a big smile on his face. He wouldn’t show me what she texted since it was “personal.” All couples dream of a relationship that is so great, a single text can make the other person break out into a big smile!
If you’re visiting this article to learn how to make a guy smile over text, I have you covered! I’m writing from two perspectives. First, I’m a man who knows what it takes to get me to smile. And, I’m a dating coach who has successfully advised men and women with texting advice.
With that in mind, here are tips to get him smiling!
I remember when I was dating a girl in high school, she sent me a note (this is was before instant messaging) in science class that told me how hot I was. I got a giant smile on my face. The teacher obviously noticed and asked me what was so funny about cell walls. I replied nothing and we went back to learning. Fortunately, she didn’t see the note.
But, Holly sending me that note, gets at a fundamental point about guys: almost all men love to be admired in some capacity. Most men would prefer being alone to being with a woman who didn’t show us respect. We like when someone truly appreciates us.
But, all compliments aren’t created equal. Random, fake compliments aren’t helpful or valuable. No guy wants a pity compliment that he secretly knows isn’t true anyway. The same goes with compliments that are just sucking up.
So, if you want to get a guy to smile over message, whether it’s Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp, Snapchat, or any other medium, send him a genuine, authentic compliment.
When complimenting, you’ll want to keep a couple of things in mind.
First, compliment him on something valuable. This means pay attention to a trait or accomplishment that he values and works hard for, then compliment him about that. For example, guys value compliments on their looks, accomplishments, and your attraction to them. Guys typically don’t care about how “sweet” or “nice” they are.
Second, because you want to compliment him on an issue or trait that means something to him, make your compliment specific, rather than vague. It’s more meaningful and shows him you’re paying attention to him. Say, “wow, you’re looking extra fit lately. I can tell you’ve been working out” rather than just “you look nice.”
If you stick to these themes for complimenting, you’ll definitely get him laughing and smiling over text message.
Have Fun With Him
In this regard, knowing how to make a guy smile over text is the same as making him smile in person: show him a good time.
I don’t mean that kind of good time (if you’re dating, by all means, show him that too!), but I’m talking about keeping the conversation fun, enjoyable, and happy.
I’m not advising you to keep it all positive. Obviously, life isn’t roses all the time. However, if you want to make him smile, find ways to make the text conversation fun and enjoyable. So, even if you have serious things to talk about, don’t always keep the conversation on negative, depressing topics.
If you know he could use a laugh or smile, keep the topic light, funny, and amusing. He’ll be in a better mood in no time.
Send Him Pictures
When I’m having a bad day, nothing makes me smile more than when my girlfriend sends me a photo. I’m not even talking about a sexual photo. Just a photo of her on Snapchat or a funny meme will do the trick.
Men are visual creatures. We respond to photos and videos generally more than we do words. So, if you want to make a guy smile, you can certainly do it with words. But, if you want to be more successful in making him laugh and smile, do something visual!
So, if you want to brighten a guy’s day, make him feel better, or just get a general smile, then sending a photo will certainly do it. While you can certainly use words too, adding a photo will make you even more successful.
If he’s at work, make sure it’s safe for work. Otherwise, do whatever you think will get him to smile.
Give Him Something To Look Forward To
We’ve all worked jobs we hated or had days we just wanted to be over. During those times, smiles were hard to come by. It is especially difficult to be happy if you are going from a bad day at work to a bad or boring evening at home too.
One way to get a guy to smile over text is to give him something to look forward to.
For example, if your husband is at work having a bad day, tell him that you’re feeling frisky and want to fool around when you get home.
But, it doesn’t even have to be sexual. You can tell your boyfriend you want to go out somewhere fun for the evening. Or, if you’re just friends with a guy you can mention that you want to take him to a movie tomorrow.
Having something to look forward to goes a long way in making anyone–man or woman–happy. And, with that will come the smiles you’re wanting. Be creative and promise him something you know he’ll enjoy. Not only will you get an instant smile, but it will generally brighten his mood for the rest of the day.
These tips will help you get the guy in your life to smile. Use them regularly and you’ll deepen your relationship with him by making him happy.