Texting has become one of the primary ways people throughout most of the world communicate with each other. Whether it’s through social media messaging like Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, WhatsApp, or just plain old texting, communication has been transformed.
However, just because technology has changed how we interact with each other, doesn’t mean everyone is good at it. In fact, humans aren’t really wired to communicate through just words. If you look at real world interactions, many factors go into it: body language, scent, facial gestures, etc.
At nearly every speaking engagement, I’m cornered by a guy who shows me his phone and wants me to tell him if the girl he’s texting likes him. Usually, I can tell pretty quickly.
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You might also be wondering how to tell if a girl likes you over text. It’s an honest question because, again, as humans, we aren’t necessarily programmed to read signs of attraction over a screen.
However, you can look for evidence that she is attracted to you and figure out the truth…even over text. This article will tell you how!
Flirts With You
Flirting is the human example of an animal mating ritual and, if a girl flirts with you, it’s a good sign that she likes you in at least some capacity. True, she might be a flirt and does that with a lot of guys. But, a woman isn’t going to flirt with someone who creeps her out or she finds disgusting (unless it’s for payment).
So, if you’re texting a girl and she is being friendly and flirty, enjoying your humor, being playful and fun, then, at the very least she feels comfortable with you. If the flirting is extreme and occurs often, then you can be pretty sure she feels some romantic attraction.
She Is Engaging
The number one rule of human interaction is that we pay attention to what we like. This applies to both the real world and texting.
You probably see it in your own life. You might enjoy watching football. But, you might dislike going to your great aunt’s house.
So, when the game is on Saturday or Sunday, you get really excited, dress up in the team gear, call all your friends together, rush to the sports bar, and enjoy every second of the game.
However, when you’re planning to visit your great aunt, you probably put it off until the last minute, give minimal effort, and stay there as little time as possible.
Look at texting the same way. If a girl likes you a lot, she’s going to enjoy texting you and that’s going to be obvious.
For example, if she gives you long answers, responds quickly, and asks you questions, then you can be pretty certain she really enjoys talking to you.
On the other hand, if you get short replies, long gaps in responses, and she only replies to you, not initiates, it’s not a good sign you’re going to be dating her.
Ask yourself this: who is more invested in this texting relationship? If you’re the one always taking the lead, asking the questions, reaching out to her, double texting to ask what’s going on, etc. then it’s clear you like her more.
But, if she’s the one investing more time and energy (or it’s truly equal), then it’s probable that she secretly likes you.
Most women who like a guy aren’t going to come right out and say it. However, they will typically send out hints, hoping that you will get the picture and actually ask them out.
These hints will usually be on the subtle side, but still clear when you piece them together. It could be something like, “We would make a cute couple” or implying that she would let you do something sexual with her.
Don’t ignore these hints or blow them off. If they happen often, then you can be pretty certain she has feelings.
She Talks Like A Girlfriend
Women talk differently to guys they like romantically vs. guys they like only as friends. So, if you want to know how to tell if a girl likes you over text, this is very important. Look for clues that she interacts with you in ways that differ from her female (and other male) friends.
Does she talk to you in ways that are fun, flirty, and with sexual tension? Does she share her romantic and sexual desires with you, yet no other guy is in the picture? Does it seem she’s trying get more from you?
Don’t, however, misread signs of friendship for signs of attraction. Sharing facts, telling you her problems, and other non-romantic and non-sexual conversation topics are things she will text to her friends.
The key way to distinguish signs of friendship vs. signs of attraction is one simple question. Ask yourself: would she say something like this to a female friend? If the answer is “yes,” it’s not a sign she likes you beyond friendship. If it’s “no” then she probably thinks of you romantically.
Tries To Get You Out
One major complaint I’ve heard from women over the years is that they’re tired of trying to date guys and ending up with “texting buddies.” As a result, if they really like you, they are going to try to take you from texting to real world interactions.
So, if the girl you’re texting is trying to get you out in “the real world” whether it’s for coffee, dinner, a movie, drinks, a concert, festival or anything, it’s a good sign she likes you.
Even if it’s not labelled as a true date, it’s still a very good indicator over text message that she is attracted to you in some way.
Of course, the opposite is also true here. If she doesn’t push to get you out and even rejects your efforts to invite her to do activities, then she’s probably not interested in your romantically.
These tips should help you know the signs that she likes you, even over text. If you see them, make sure to act and get her out and dating you!