We live in a world where communication is virtually unlimited. As long as you and the other person have your phones or tablets by your side, you can instantly connect with each other. This allows family, friends, lovers, and even total strangers miles apart to create an instant connection.
One area where texting plays an important role is dating and relationships. if you’re a man or woman wanting a quality relationship, you know that texting has become an important part of your success (or lack of it).
Yet, as humans, knowing how to text a girl you like isn’t always natural. We evolved for face to face romantic interaction that involves sight, smell, body language, voice tone, and other subconscious physical factors. However, none of that can happen over a screen when texting.
Even more media friendly platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter can’t truly replicate “in person” interaction. Because sending words over a screen is so foreign to many people, it’s natural to need help to successfully text a girl you like.
Fortunately, there are ways to text a woman that allow you to create feelings of attraction within her and make her want to date you. This article will explain how to text a girl you like in detail, giving several ways to be successful.
The beautiful thing about messaging is that you have time on your side. In person, if a woman says something, you have to think on your feet. If you aren’t quick witted, it can be a disaster. But, over text, you can easily craft a thoughtful response.
Take advantage of that! Before you send a text, proofread it. I’m not just talking about correct grammar and spelling (although women find this attractive), but also about content. Before you hit “send,” make sure that what you’ve written is attractive and excellent. If it comes across as needy, desperate, or generally unattractive, delete it and start over.
Feelings, Not Facts
Texting is ideal for fact sharing. It’s a cold, robotic environment where intellectual information is easily exchanged. For example, texting is perfect to tell your friend that you’re running a few minutes late or confirming a doctor’s appointment.
But, this tendency towards cold, hard fact sharing can doom you if you’re wondering how to text a girl you like. When texting, you’ll always want to get the woman feeling something. She should feel happy, intrigued, excited, and, above all, attracted to you through your texting choices. This doesn’t mean sharing your feelings in a needy or emotional way. It does mean, however, moving beyond factual conversation to pull her into your world. The following tips explain it.
To successfully text a girl you like, you’re going to have to flirt with her and get flirting back. It’s like in real life. You have to create chemistry. If you only text her for information or talk about casual things like the weather, you’re going to just end up being friends or acquaintances.
Flirting is really just having fun and creating sexual tension. However, one sure way to flirt is through teasing. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but it works. When I say tease though, I mean poke a little fun where you are laughing with her, not at her. Make sure she knows you’re kidding.
For example, if a girl sends me a selfie, I might say something like, “I really like your shirt! It reminds me of my grandma’s curtains. Trust me, that’s a compliment. I love those curtains.”
Notice how, it’s delivered in a way to be humorous and teasing, but not an outright insult. Afterwards, when she responds, you can add. “I’m joking, of course. You look great!”
Avoid topics that make her insecure, however, like weight, health problems, and things that you know she won’t have a good sense of humor about.
Make Her Laugh
I dated a girl for awhile who gave me the ultimate compliment. She told me that her friends were giving her a hard time because she was always smiling at her phone. They knew she was texting me.
Think about all the messages women get on a regular basis. Most of those texts are serious, unwanted, or related to work. If you can be the guy that brightens her day with genuine laughter, she’s going to definitely like you.
The best way to make her laugh is to involve her in your humor. In other words, make her laugh based on your life and hers. You do this primarily through observational humor instead of using canned jokes, lines from movies and shows, and stuff you read online.
For example, if she sends you a photo or tells you a story, use that as a source for your humor. Perhaps you can make a funny comment about her cat in the picture she sends or a detail about something that happened on her lunch break.
Observational humor makes her feel special. If you’re an attractive guy, any woman would be glad to receive attention from you. By being both funny and making it about her, you’re increasing your chances she’ll like you.
If your goal is to simply avoid sharing facts, then you’ll have to frame the details of your life and hers in a different way. Rather than cold intellectualism, you use the medium which has captured the attention of people for generations: storytelling.
Look at a good historical movie. Sure, it tells facts, but it does it in a way that is interesting, exciting, and pulls at your emotions. A list of facts on the screen would bore everyone to tears. Told in story form, it draws people in and keeps them on the edge of their seats.
Keep your text stories original and interesting. Send them over multiple texts to keep her interested and guessing what’s coming next. Always build to a funny and/or surprising climax. All good stories will follow this general pattern, but it’s even more crucial over text. Nobody wants to read a boring wall of text. Here are good general tips to tell a good story.
For example, “I tripped while running today” might be a unique part of your day, but that statement is pretty bland. Here’s a way to tell it like a story:
You: “I was running earlier today on the bike path when Twenty One Pilots came on my Pandora. Of course I needed to turn it up! As I was looking down, next thing I know, this giant stick jumped up at me from out of nowhere. You probably know what happened next.”
Her: “You tripped?”
You: “Oh please! I’m not clumsy. The stick knocked me down!”
While this story isn’t going to win any comedy awards, it’s at the very least entertaining. You can see how a boring fact “I tripped while running” can be retold to be engaging and humorous.
So, use these techniques and you’ll find a lot more success texting the girl you like. Remember, above all, to get her feeling something (ideally attraction towards you) rather than simply boring fact sharing.