Yesterday a friend of mine was telling me about a guy she liked at work. She wanted to move him from acquaintance to an actual date (and maybe even more). She was interested in trying to get him to think of her in a romantic way. But, since they worked together and she’d have to see him often, she didn’t want her efforts to be blatantly obvious!
You might be in a similar situation, wanting to get a guy excited over text, but not wanting it to be too obvious. Maybe you aren’t dating yet. Perhaps you want to be a tease. Or you might just want to see how he reacts.
Whatever your motivation, this article will explain how to turn a guy on over text without being obvious. Whether it’s Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Whatsapp, or any other messaging platform, these tips will help.
Just remember something when trying to get a guy to notice you: men can often be dense. You might need to be a little more obvious, especially if you aren’t dating. But, if he’s your boyfriend, fiancé, or husband, then not being obvious is a good strategy to slowly and subtly get him in the mood when you can’t be overt (like when he’s at work).
Play Hard To Get
I was out with a friend of mine last week and he was very distracted, always looking at his phone. I asked him what was so interesting and he told me about a woman he knew who was texting him. She seemed interested one minute and not as much the next. Although he was a little frustrated, he certainly gave her his full focus (even with me sitting right beside him).
If you want to turn a guy on over message without being super obvious, you can play a little hard to get. By this I mean, do and say sexy things to him, but then, keep him guessing with your other texts and interactions. So, if you send him a photo that is sexy and he asks for another, make him wait. If he sends you sexy messages, take awhile to respond.
Playing hard to get does a couple of things. First, it makes him want you more. Second, it makes him work harder to get what he wants. So, you’ll work him up and get him turned on, but, by backpedaling slightly, it’s not so obvious what you’re doing.
However, don’t play too hard to get. Studies show, for the most part, men don’t like when women play hard to get. So, do it just enough to get him riled up without it being obvious. If you strike that balance, you’ll get him wanting more while not being obvious about your intentions.
Be Suggestive, Not Graphic
I once talked to a group of women discussing what guys find attractive. One of them said it seems like guys only want photos of them naked. She felt like too many women did this and that being sexy while keeping your clothes on was a lost art. I thought about it and totally agree.
That’s why I advise women who want to turn on a guy slowly and without it being obvious, should focus on being suggestive. By giving away a lot, but not everything, you’re keeping him interested and focused on you. This gives him just enough to get aroused, but it leaves him wanting more. Even censored images were enough to get guys turned on according to one study.
Plus, by sending photos that are risque, but not outright graphic, you’re protecting yourself. You don’t want those pictures of yourself out there. And, unless you fully trust him, you don’t want him having access to those photos anyway. Keeping it sexy, but not going all the way over photo is not only making it less obvious, but it’s the smartest decision in a time when nothing truly disappears from the internet.
Be Vague And Ambiguous
Women have different goals when trying to turn on a guy over text. One of those goals, as previously mentioned, is to see if he likes you in a romantic, sexual way. You don’t want to try to turn him on if you’re not sure how he feels. By not making it obvious, you can figure out how he feels without making it awkward. This is especially useful if it’s a co-worker or friend and you just want to see his reaction.
You can do this by being purposefully vague and ambiguous. This means that you conceal your intentions and make statements that can be denied or spun in a different direction later. The key word is deniability. It’s not obvious that you’re trying to turn him on.
You can do this by starting small and slow and seeing how he reacts. Make vague and general statements in the beginning. If he reacts positively, then move forward a little more. If he reacts negatively, pull back.
For example, you can talk vaguely about your sexual preferences and what you enjoy. Then, you can gradually discuss what would happen if he and you did those together. If he gets upset, just say you were kidding. If he likes it, move forward.
Also, you can do the same thing with sending photos. Don’t send anything too sexy at first. Start slowly and see how he reacts. If he gives you feedback that shows he’s interested, you can send even more provocative ones down the line.
One of the best techniques you can use to know how to turn on a guy over text without it being obvious is to become good at the art of teasing. This means that you don’t give away everything, but simply provoke the guy’s interest in a playful, fun way.
The great thing about teasing is that it’s not completely obvious what you’re doing. Are you playing around? Or are you trying to turn him on?
The best way to tease him is to be playful and fun in a way that keeps him guessing. So, joke around sexually, send photos that are playful, but don’t reveal too much. Bring him into your world in an enjoyable way that also turns him on and makes him like you. Then, once he gives you what you want, you can move beyond teasing to whatever you please.
These tips should help you turn him on, but in a way that isn’t so blatantly obvious. Try them out and see how he reacts. It should make him like you even more, get him riled up for an evening of fun, or determine if a guy you like feels that way about you.