If you listen to the media and popular culture, February 14th is the most romantic, amazing, perfect, love-filled day of the year when happy couples celebrate everything beautiful about life and
relationships. Of course, the message if you’re single? Then, you obviously are a lonely, miserable human being who will never know the true joy life has to offer.
All of the above is, of course, total crap. February 14th is a “holiday” created by companies to push the idea that people need to spend more money in the name of romance. Even the Catholic Church, the inventor of St. Valentine’s Day, doesn’t include it as a holiday anymore.
Even though it’s basically a fake holiday designed to squeeze money from people, being lonely on Valentine’s Day is no fun. Because of all the expressions of love around us, February 14th can make even the strongest of us feel a little down and depressed.
If you’re single and lonely, follow these tips for feel happier. Although this is written primarily for men, the tips apply to women, as well. Also, for those who are happy being single, carry on, as usual!
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Being lonely is a real feeling. And, it sucks. Being lonely on Valentine’s Day sucks even more because you’re usually inundated with romantic stuff on social media from all your friends who are in love. So, while I’ve given a lot of advice to get over your loneliness and get your act together, there’s nothing wrong with recognizing you don’t feel great.
While my other points are about overcoming loneliness and focusing on yourself, don’t just stuff down your pain. There’s nothing wrong with admitting you’re upset. Be honest with yourself.
However, simply wallowing in self pity isn’t a great option either. So, recognize how you feel, realize it’s OK to feel it, then you can make serious efforts to deal with it and fix it.
Focus on Self-Improvement
If you’re not single by choice, then maybe you’re not bringing a lot to the table to make a girl (or guy) want to be with you. The best way to attract someone is to…wait for it…become more attractive. So, what better way to spend Valentine’s Day than to focus on making yourself better?
Go to the gym, buy some clothes that make you look more confident, go to a class, spend time in meditation, or even do something crazy that’s outside of your comfort zone. Whatever you pick, do something that makes you a better, stronger person.
You don’t need another person to be happy. If you think you do, then that is a big part of your feelings of loneliness on Valentine’s Day. I’m not denying we need companionship. But, if you need it so much that you’re turning sad and desperate, it’s time to turn some focus back on yourself.
When I say treat yourself, I’m not talking about going on a beer and chocolate binge. Rather, I mean to do something empowering that you enjoy that doesn’t require a romantic partner. It can be a one time thing (e.g. going to the art museum) or something that is in the future (e.g. signing up to run a 5k). The point is that you’re not wallowing in self pity, but having fun and empowering yourself for the future.
Spend Time With Friends
You know the best cure for feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day? Be around people so you aren’t as lonely. I’m sure you have friends who also don’t have significant others. Find them and hang out with them on February 14th. I have no doubt that your other single friends are going through exactly the same thing. There’s no sense in suffering separately when you can get together and solve the problem.
If all your friends are in relationships, then go out and try to meet new people. Go to a place where people would be open to new interactions (bars, meetups, etc.) and talk to new people. If they are by themselves, chances are they’re also single. You can both bond over your mutual dislike of Valentine’s Day. But, you don’t even have to do that. Just have fun and be your best self. You’d be amazed at how others are open to meeting new people. They’re just waiting for someone to reach out to them.
If you don’t have any friends and don’t even have the resources to find them, then your problems go far beyond simply Valentine’s Day. It just happens that this one day of the year is exposing all the issues you have the other 364. Our website has many resources to help you overcome your lack of friends and dates.
So, if you’re lonely, sad, depressed, or any other feelings on this made up holiday called Valentine’s Day, these tips should help you be at least a little happier. Be strong and, above all, focus on yourself. Make yourself a better, stronger, more attractive person.
If you do all this, you’ll be happier on the inside and…maybe next year you won’t be lonely on Valentine’s Day.