The term “low energy” got thrust into the spotlight when Donald Trump hurled the insult at his Republican rival Jeb Bush in the US Presidential primaries. This is the last I’m going to mention politics because we try to stay apolitical and low energy people are found are found everywhere, not just in politics.
However, if you’re low energy, good luck finding success in life, whether it’s work, socially, or in relationships.
This article will explain the low energy person meaning and how to identify if you are low energy. That way you can work at being more assertive, dynamic, and energetic.
What Is A Low Energy Person?
A few years ago, I met a girl who seemed pretty and nice. Whenever we would text, her responses were usually “yeah” and “OK.” In person, it wasn’t much better since she wouldn’t say a lot and preferred staring at her phone to actual conversation. Rather than creating passion and excitement, she just made me want to go take a nap. That story is a good illustration of a low energy person.
So, basically, a low energy person definition is someone whose “vibe” is bland, boring, un-motivating and un-exciting. Being around them, even for brief periods, is draining and tiring. Low energy people don’t create excitement. They don’t create a buzz. They just sort of exist. And, when they do act, it typically is not in a way that positively motivates people.
Low Energy Vs. High Energy People
People can be low energy and high energy and everything in between. Here are a few traits of both:
High energy– motivational, inspirational, assertive, fun, exciting, charismatic, limitless enthusiasm
Low energy– draining, brings others down, passive, boring, bland, looks and acts tired
Keep in mind that low energy isn’t synonymous with introverted or shy. It also doesn’t necessarily refer to feeling tired. It’s more the kind of vibe a person brings to the table. Do they bring positive motivation and inspiration? Or, do they bring negativity and sap the energy from others? Someone can still be extroverted and low energy.
When it comes to relationships, dating, friendship, and even business, most people prefer to interact with high energy people. They want to be with someone who brings out the best in them, shows them adventure, and makes them feel energized (e.g. high energy). They don’t want to be with someone who brings them down, drains them, and puts them to sleep!
So, if you’re single, can’t advance in your job, or have few friends, maybe you aren’t high energy enough to impact others.
Are You Low Energy?
Here are a few questions you can ask to determine if you’re low energy. You might not even know it! If you can’t honestly evaluate yourself, have an honest friend answer them.
Do I wait for others to take the lead?
Do others seem bored around me?
Do I rely on negative tactics to get my way (shame, whining, discipline) rather than inspirational ones?
Am I usually the second or third choice of my friends when socializing?
Am I excluded from “fun” and “exciting” events my friends plan?
Am I unpopular in general?
Am I always “too tired,” “worn out,” or “low key” when others want to do something?
If you answered “yes” to a few of these, then you might be low energy. If you have few friends, struggle to get dates and your life consists of sitting or lying around all the time, this might explain it. However, you don’t have to stay that way.
Tips To Be More High Energy
This advice should help you avoid your low energy behavior. Keep in mind that no one is always excited and energetic. And, everyone needs down time and relaxation. These are general tips to be inspirational, motivational, and high energy in general.
Stop the Negative Tactics
Avoid shaming, guilt tripping, controlling, and other negative behaviors to get your way. If you find yourself doing these, people consider you low energy. So, just stop!
Cut Out Negativity
It’s easy to get sucked into drama and negativity when everyone around you is engaging in it. To be fully high energy, you might need to cut out the negative people you’re around, whether it’s boundary setting with family and friends or finding a new job.
Take Up An Inspiring Hobby
Take on positive, inspirational hobbies that will make others follow you. Run a marathon, start a non-profit, form a band, build a business. Do something that is inspirational. That will not only raise your energy level, but others will latch on to your positive energy too.
If you’re overweight and out of shape, you might be literally low energy since you’re lethargic. Losing weight and getting active will get you up and about and give you more energy. Having more physical energy goes a long way in making you more generally high energy. You can’t be leading and inspiring others if you get winded walking up the stairs. Others will pick up on this too.
Take Risks/Be Adventurous
It’s hard to be low energy while you’re sky diving or scaling the side of a mountain. By being more adventurous and taking good risks, you’re making yourself high energy. Others will pick up on it and want to be around you…and go on the adventures with you.
So, now that you know what a low energy person is and how to fix it, don’t let your lack of excitement and energy keep you from being successful. By getting rid of your general low energy behavior, you’ll be more attractive and exciting.