The term “low energy” got thrust into the spotlight when Donald Trump hurled the insult at his Republican rival Jeb Bush in the US Presidential primaries. This is the last I’m going to mention politics because we try to stay apolitical and low energy people aren’t just found in politics.
However, if you’re low energy, good luck finding success in life, whether it’s work, socially, or in relationships.
What Is A Low Energy Person?
A few years ago, I met a girl who seemed pretty and nice. Whenever we would text, her responses were usually “yeah” and “OK.” In person, it wasn’t much better since she wouldn’t say a lot and preferred staring at her phone to actual conversation. Rather than creating passion and excitement, she just made me want to go take a nap. That story is a good illustration of a low energy person.
So, basically, a low energy person is someone whose “vibe” is bland, boring, un-motivating and un-exciting. Being around them, even for brief periods, is draining and tiring. Low energy people don’t create excitement. They don’t create a buzz. They just sort of exist. And, when they do act, it typically is not in a way that positively motivates people.
Low Energy Vs. High Energy People
People can be low energy and high energy and everything in between. Here are a few traits of both:
High energy– motivational, inspirational, assertive, fun, exciting, charismatic
Low energy– draining, brings others down, passive, boring, bland
Keep in mind that low energy isn’t synonymous with introverted or shy. It’s more the kind of energy the person brings to the table. Do they bring positive motivation and inspiration? Or, do they bring negativity and sap the energy from others? Someone can still be extroverted and low energy.
When it comes to relationships, dating, friendship, and even business, most people prefer to interact with high energy people. They want to be with someone who brings out the best in them, shows them adventure, and makes them feel energized (e.g. high energy). They don’t want to be with someone who brings them down, drains them, and puts them to sleep!
So, if you’re single, can’t advance in your job, or have few friends, maybe you aren’t high energy enough to impact others.
Are You Low Energy?
Here are a few questions you can ask to determine if you’re low energy. You might not even know it!
Do I wait for others to take the lead?
Do others seem bored around me?
Do I rely on negative tactics to get my way (shame, whining, discipline) rather than inspirational ones?
Am I usually the second or third choice of my friends?
Am I excluded from “fun” and “exciting” events my friends plan?
Am I unpopular in general?
If you answered “yes” to a few of these, then you might be low energy. If you have few friends and struggle to get dates, this might explain it. However, you don’t have to stay that way.
Tips To Be More High Energy
This advice should help you avoid your low energy behavior. Keep in mind that no one is always excited and energetic. And, everyone needs down time and relaxation. These are general tips to be inspirational, motivational, and high energy in general.
Stop the Negative Tactics– Avoid shaming, guilt tripping, controlling, and other negative behaviors to get your way. If you find yourself doing these, stop!
Take Up An Inspiring Hobby– Take on positive, inspirational hobbies that will make others follow you. Run a marathon, start a non-profit, form a band, build a business. Do something that is inspirational. That will not only raise your energy level, but others will latch on to your positive energy too.
Lose Weight/Exercise– If you’re overweight and out of shape, you might be literally low energy since you’re lethargic. Losing weight and getting active will get you more active and give you more energy. Others will pick up on this.
Take Risks/Be Adventurous– It’s hard to be low energy while you’re sky diving or scaling the side of a mountain. By being more adventurous and taking good risks, you’re making yourself high energy. Others will pick up on it and want to be around you…and go on the adventures with you.
So, now that you know what a low energy person is and how to fix it, don’t let your lack of excitement and energy keep you from being successful. By getting rid of your general low energy behavior, you’ll be more attractive and exciting.