Men Who Hate Women

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Throughout my life I’ve met lots of guys who, for whatever reasons or another, just didn’t like women. Maybe some of your friends or guys you know at work have a hatred for the female sex. Men who hate women feel this way for a variety of reasons. We’re going to address a few of those reasons.

Men Who Hate Women

I don’t believe any reasons are valid for truly hating women as a group. I also believe if a man hates a woman for any reason, it’s largely his fault for losing control and becoming too attached. Because if you hate something, that something controls your emotions, and if something controls your emotions, then you aren’t in control of your life.

Notice I am not saying bad women don’t exist. Many people know women who are bitter, angry, dramatic, and will take a grudge to an almost irrational extreme. Many people have horrible experiences with their mothers, ex-wives, colleagues, etc. Even women often have disdain for other women. And, hating an individual woman who has wronged you is totally understandable. There are a lot of jerk women out there (See Why Women Can Be Jerks And Losers Too).

However, applying the behavior of a few women to every woman you meet just shows that the negative women in your life are still controlling your brain. What a lot of guys don’t realize is that when you hold anger toward all women, women emotionally control you, which is actually a sign of weakness.

So, while a man might have had issues with women in the past, he can’t let that dictate his dealings with women in the present. He just appears angry and weak. And, while women respect cockiness, they don’t respect men with unresolved anger issues towards their sex. Below are a few types of men who hate women.

The Butthurt Hater

Many men hate females because they’ve been rejected so many times. They absolutely love women. But, they can’t have a woman (especially one they’ve developed a crush on), so they end up feeling resentment towards the entire sex.

Believe it or not, a lot of “nice guys” fall into this category. When their techniques fail, they feel entitled to a date. And, entitled people end up hating what they can’t get. These beta male women haters have the right impulse (loving women), but can’t get past their bitterness. It’s a “I love her so much that I hate her scenario.”

These guys need to just relax and start being attractive to women. Rather than hoping and praying a woman will change her tastes to suit them, they should start being the type of man she will date. These haters really hate evolution (and its attraction indicators) in the end and refuse to adapt.

The good news is that women are usually attracted to personality more than looks. So, a guy can change his personality and get over this hate.

Momma’s Boys

Momma’s boys sometimes hate women. And, these men are some of the most difficult to deal with. On the one hand, these males, sometimes beta, sometimes omega, feel a great attachment to their mother. On the other hand, they feel emasculated by their smother, er, mother.

Guys who are attached at their hips to their moms often view women they hope to date and befriend in two ways: an ideal domestic servant or a hated, overbearing oppressor. In some cases, they’ll have these feelings at the same time. Talk about a problem!

God help any woman who dates this guy. No woman can win. A woman is a stereotype and label no matter what she does. Until he breaks free from his mother, she can’t expect anything but misery from him. But, that’s OK because he isn’t leaving his childhood bedroom at his mom’s house any time soon.

Guys With Anger Issues

Some guys are just angry and these dudes also hate many other people, things, and places, typically weaker ones (like the mentally disabled, hamsters, and New Jersey).  These guys will happily badmouth all women along with all blacks, gays, cats, beautiful people, and anyone else they happen to feel rage towards. Haters gonna hate and these guys aren’t looking to change.

These men need to learn to relax and take it a little easier. Life is way too long to hate everything, although if you experience anger all the time, your life will definitely become decidedly shorter.  They are the perfect recipients of the phrase “take a chill pill.” In fact, for these angry young (and old men), the pill should probably be an extra large dose of Valium (or at least Xanax).

So, there are a few types of men who hate women. If you are a woman, beware. If you’re a man, try not to be like any of these (usually dateless and lonely) guys. Women are human beings. Learn to deal with them and laugh at them like you hopefully can laugh at every other human who isn’t perfect. That will provide the necessary perspective so an entire sex isn’t controlling you.

About Jonathan Bennett

Jonathan Bennett is a writer, speaker, and business owner. His articles have been viewed millions of times, and have been featured in a variety of publications. Besides writing for The Popular Man, he also writes for The Popular Teen and Popular Teacher.


  1. “Momma’s boys often hate women. And, these men who hate women are some of the most difficult to deal with. On the one hand, these males, sometimes beta, sometimes omega, feel a great attachment to their mother. On the other hand, they feel emasculated by their smother, er, mother.”

    That’w a classical one and it’s close to incest simply. They in fact hate their mothers but as society does not accept children to hate or simply even critisize their parents whatever they have done, they move, evacuate their hate to women.

    They is a lot of pressure on children or even adults to love their parents blindly no matter if they were good parents or not. Giving birth, food, shelter to a kid it’s the minimum parents must do and if they are able to do only that then they are useless.

    Also It’s strange that many countries that are very misogynistic (i.e in Southern Europe, Middle-East) are also countries where mother / son relation is the most unhealthy. (in Italy alone 50% of divorces are due to the mother in law interferences in the couple)

    • Just say NO to Mommy's Boys says:

      You are so right about this. Momma’s boys are damaged. I was with one for many years, but I finally left him. He is married to his mother and she can have him. It’s pathetic, and his sycophantic “love” for mommy was disgusting. I need a real man, not some little boy who is always sucking up to his mommy and constantly ruining our plans to “hang out” with her.

      His father didn’t care for his mother (probably because she was a fat slob that claimed she couldn’t even pump her own gas, why would she when she had two 40 year old men vieing for the opportunity to coddle her?) She pretended to be disabled but it was an act and she has never been disgnosed with any medical condition.

      It’s disgusting incestuous bullshit, if you ask me. Mothers of boys abuse them because their husbands are no longer interested in them and the boys become surrogate spouses. That’s usually the time that their wives get tired of supporting the dysfunctional bullshit and leave him and mommy to their marital bliss.

  2. Hiwayman says:

    Its very clear to me that none of you so-called experts have had any experience with the court system, and the kinds of sick acts a lot of the women you think so highly of are capable of. You both need to live a little more before you start judging men who express a natural reaction to the many kinds of abuse and indifference the courts indulge in and the women exploit to the max.

  3. Jonathan Bennett says:

    We have spoken on this blog before about how men get screwed by the court systems. It really is unjust and unfair. However, regardless of other situations, we believe men shouldn’t hate women as a whole.

  4. I personally think some women deserve the resentment nice guys feel toward them. They are so screwed in the head over the type of men they date. There is nothing more annoying than seeing or being the guy they will not date, and then hearing them bitch and cry over the so-called Alpha males, and screaming the typical men are pigs. I tell them no they are not. you jsut choose poorly and got what you deserved.

  5. its the double standard in our society that makes me despise them.

  6. I came here looking for answers as to why some men hate women. ” they are so screwed in the head.” ” it’s (whatever) that makes me despise them.” Court abuses. Crying and screaming. The conspiracy to enslave decent men!

    Learn this lesson.

    I have been beaten repeatedly, kicked, strangled, punched, and sexually assaulted. I had my child taken from me in the middle of the night and did not see her again for 7 years. My savings drained; my cards maxed. Men.

    I also went to 3 universities, built numerous homes, made good money, fell madly in love, solved problems galore, and told dirty jokes, And I learned how to fight. Men.

    Life is complex, and not without a sense of humour. Like the man says, lighten up!

    • Well done ‘thepinch’ respect to you & hope for me. I come across the problem that most of my male friends have towards women that is entrenched in their thinking & it has upset me at times, because if I try to discuss how as a female I would like to meet a ‘man who gave mutual love & respect’ & want a committed relationship long term, the replies are all negative. When I explain how my ex had more material worth from the divorce its shrugged off as the exception to the rule…as if what I say is only white noise & only information that confirms the fears & biased information concerning women is what they want to hear.

  7. Ms. Wendy – Just pretend( if you can?) that there are guys out there who want to give mutual love and respect and do want a committed ,longterm relationship—– well, they are called “nice guys” and they get trashed and friendzoned, so welcome to the party!

  8. fuzzbuster111 says:

    I’m a guy. A pretty normal guy who really likes women, gets along with most of them and enjoys the company of women. So, this is from the perspective of a guy who has known several woman-haters.

    There really are men who “hate” or perhaps can’t relate to women. In fact, I really have a hard time relating to guys who hate women. I can tolerate them for a short period of time, and Yes, I’ve known two or three in my lifetime. Even as a guy, these people are really hard to hang around. I can’t tell you why they hate women, but I can tell you about some common traits they all seem to share: 1. They are very demanding; 2. They are argumentative and quick to anger; 3. They are hardly ever happy and tend to be pretty negative; 4. They think the world is out to screw them and are quick to pounce on anyone who doesn’t share their “view”; 5. They try too hard – everything seems to be urgent, impossible, a problem, even when they pretend to be happy it’s like “ISN’T THIS GREAT….ISN’T THIS GREAT…HA HA HA HA” (forced laughter) “why aren’t you laughing!!: and 6. they are very self-centered and self absorbed; 7. Oh, and some are obsessive.

    For the woman hater, every woman has something wrong with her. One woman-hater I know attracts some really cute girls, but when they get to know him, and I ask what about so-and-so, he spits out some big flaw with her (too old, boobs too small, too flighty, too fake) and says he lost interest. Yeah, I know what really happened – the girl figured out that the woman hater is WEIRD and lost interest.

  9. Then of course there are the worst kind of all men: the kind who are so brainwashed by the feminist educational indoctrination they can’t dare be offensive to any woman. So they write articles that serve as echo chambers for man haters and middle aged divorcees. You, matey, OP, are the perfect illustration of pussy whipped.

    Hear this though: modern women of the calibre responding to your article are not your friends. Women who cry and bitch and complain in a society that affords them almost complete control sexually and reproductively over men, are women who will bleed you dry. They’re the type of women who know what it feels like to be hated by men, because they’re damn easy for men to hate. They are not “strong”, nor “independent”, nor worthy of a man of higher standing than the cretins whom they seem so perfectly adapted to attract for themselves. Strong is not degrading a person simply because he refuses to mold himself into what you desire him to be. Strong is not being unsupportive, relentlessly pressurising and looking down your nose when a human you profess to care for has problems of some kind or other. To have even the slightest idea in your head that a man should change who they are to suit some arbitrary idealism of yours is extremely arrogant and extremely destructive. There’s nothing smart or empowering in it.

    Strong is growig up as an orphan, having a kid to a psychotic, then finding a job, moving out, looking after your son for twenty years without asking for a penny from him, shielding him fromthe past, and coming out the other end with still enough love in you to give another (good) man a chance at making you happy. Strongs is having a bit of compassioj and humility, enough to contact that kid’s father after 20 years wherein not even a penny or an apology were given from him, with still enough forgiveness in you to bring him and his son together with one another. So if I love my mother and despise many modern women it’s because she’s strong in ways that entitled princesses who’ve simply can’t be.

    The problem men like myself face is we don’t buy the bullshit. We’re not easily fooled by glitter and lip gloss. Arrogance in women passes for hardiness nowadays, the same way entitlement passes for cutesyness, but eventually men grow up and realise it shouldn’t. Arrogance and entitlement aren’t the qualities of strong women. They are the demeanour of spoilt, silly little girls. So if I have no respect for most women it’s because most women I meet have taken no time to cultivate a character worthy of my respect. All I see in many women are people who expect, and people who take, yet who consider themselves to have no responsibility to give, nor to be expected of in return.

    • Anger=emotional attachment. If someone is angry at all women, that man is ultimately still being controlled by women. Choosing detachment means they don’t control you anymore. Read the article again (or for the first time), because it doesn’t excuse bad behavior from women.

  10. A real average woman says:

    I’m a woman who is a “nice girl”. I got so tired of men not approaching me that I started approaching men, and have been rejected by every single one. But the thing is, never have I resented or hated men as a group for this. In fact, I think men, in general, are great. I have my standards….there are people I’m attracted to and people I am not, and that is not something I control. I respect that men have their standards too, and, for whatever reason, most of them just don’t seem to find me attractive. That’s fine. I wouldn’t want to date someone who isn’t actually into me any more than I would want to date someone I wasn’t actually into.

    I do, though, get annoyed at those resentful “nice guys” who fish out of their league, get rejected, and then make sweeping, negative generalizations about women. No, I’m not a gold digger, or a whore, or a slut, or someone who wants a guy to treat me badly, and I’m not the one who rejected you. I’m the one you ignored (and in hindsight, I’m glad you did). So don’t fling your sh!t my way when Ms. Super Model rejects you.

    And on that note, I would like to point something out. These guys don’t “love women” in any way that another human being should be loved. A woman might be many things in their mind…some worship worthy supernatural being, a certificate of their worth as a man, a prize they feel entitled to because they are “nice”…in fact nicer than any other guy on the planet. But in their mind, the one thing a woman is not, is another person like them, and this is a big factor in their relationship difficulties.

    • A real average woman: I have had this attitude that a woman is a woman, only to be rejected when I did try. Personally, I do not see the fuss about “supermodels”. I don’t care if you are black, white, native, asian, latino, fat, skinny, tall, short, etc., if I am attracted to you, that is all that matters.

  11. A real average woman says:


    You can go on pinning your negative assumptions on women you’ve never met to construct an effigy of that which makes you feel validated in your views, but that seems like a pretty negative world to live in. Sometimes people like to wallow in their negativity though.

    Yeah, there’s sh!tty women out there. There’s also sh!tty men. And there are people who think negative things about you because you are a man, just like you think negative things about me because I am a woman.

    Those types of sentiments are easy to come by when you have been hurt and become discouraged, but they are deceptive cancers that will eat you up and keep you from all that is good in life.

    Life really is like a box of chocolates. Especially when it comes to other people. You never really do know what you are going to get. You don’t really know what a person is like until you take the time to get to know them. These days I don’t form assumptions or expectations of people. I let them show me who they are.

    Maybe you make these negative assumptions to keep yourself away from people in the chance they are the kind that are toxic to you, because you can’t take being hurt again. I understand that. That’s a natural human response actually. Because we are inherently social creatures, we perceive social rejection in a fashion similar to physical pain, and we react to it much as we would to something that has physically harmed us. We try to stay away from it.

    I hope you someday recover, and let yourself meet great people, and have a happy life, rich with family, and friends from all walks of it.

    • I have never dated a woman, but over the years, some things have made me wonder about females. I have seen people that were in my social circle deliberately make up excuses for rejecting a guy, but then they end up with a jerk who slips off a condom while he is sleeping with them, or who would cheat behind their back, but he is good looking.

      I started college, and not having enough experience with women, I was naive. There was this female in a health field that led me on, and I fell hard for her. Besides my schoolwork, she was all I thought about. Eventually to her, the game got less entertaining, and she got cold to me. I tried everything to win her over, but she angrily confronted me when I saw her in my neighbourhood. I had anxiety and a personality disorder at the time. It just made things worst. Finally, I had a nervous breakdown, and I was diagnosed with a form of schizophrenia.

      At this point, I do not feel the same way about women the way I used to. The people that say that I am not entitled to the way I feel should feel the sadness and terror that I experienced. I see a lot of people that are social justice warriors when it comes to situations like this, but when it comes to reality, I don’t hear or see them.

  12. OhSoTrue says:

    Well the ones that are Gay and Bi that is for sure.

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