We live in an age when women are heads of state, CEOs, run businesses, and serve in the military. Women can pretty much do anything they want, with few barriers. Yet, there is one realm where women still don’t usually take the initiative: dating.
The dating game of men pursuing and women being chased is wired into the human brain. However, just because that’s the standard doesn’t mean it has to be that way. It’s perfectly fine for a woman to chase a guy.
In fact, “chasing” him doesn’t even have to be asking him out. It can be as simple as reading the signs he likes you, then focusing on being charming and flirtatious around him so that he gets the courage to ask you out!
But, no girl wants to be rejected. So, you want to see signs a guy wants you to chase him before you make a move. Obviously, you don’t want to waste your time. As a dating coach and a guy, I’ll share my unique perspective and show you the signs the man in your life wants you to make a move!
A good friend of mine is handsome, charming, and has a good job. But, he’s also very shy. He will only talk to a select few women and that’s if he gets up the courage. Women love him when they meet him, but they don’t get that chance much. He simply won’t reach out and talk to them.
I throw shyness out as a “sign” a guy wants you to chase him because if a man is introverted, he might like you, but have a hard time either pursuing you at first or letting you know how he feels. So, if you’re wanting to date a shy guy, you can take that as a strong sign that he’s going to move more slowly and be less likely to make a move.
You might actually have to do some chasing.
Guys can tell you a lot about their inner desires through their body language. Since body language is mostly given off subconsciously, you can see into his thoughts by looking at how he carries himself.
The eyes are a pretty good giveaway if a guy is attracted to you. Guys are very visual, so physical appearance plays a huge role when they decide if they are attracted to someone. However, when they judge a woman as attractive, they want to see more of her!
This is usually done through sustained eye contact or, more often, staring. You likely have caught guys checking you out in the past. Keep an eye out for this with the guy you want to chase. If he’s checking you out often, it’s a good sign he likes you.
If he’s slick about staring, then ask friends to watch. Maybe he checks out your butt when you’re walking away or stares at you when you aren’t looking.
Another good sign a guy is attracted to you and wants you to chase him is if he touches you. I’m not talking about that kind of touching, but obviously that’s a huge sign he likes you! For this section, however, I’m referring more to subtle touching.
Does he put his arm around you, give you shoulder rubs, or get close when you two talk or you show him your phone? If you’re sitting on the couch, do you cuddle up in some capacity or sit close even though there is plenty of room?
If he touches you or gets extra close to you, then he’s very comfortable with you and at the very least doesn’t find you off-putting. While it’s not a sure sign the guy wants you to chase him, it’s a very good one!
He’s “Happy” To See You
Since this site is rated PG-13, I’m going to assume you’re an adult and get this point. Guys have a telltale sign that they find you physically attractive. Sometimes you can see it, other times you can feel it. Oh, and it’s not always within his full control.
So, if you think he has a comb in his pocket, he’s probably happy to see you. If you’ve noticed that phenomenon when he’s around you and it’s pretty consistent, then he definitely likes you. Even if he’s too afraid to make a move, this body language sign isn’t hard. Sorry, I had to…
If a guy is interested in you, but too shy or scared to chase you, then he is probably waiting for you to make a move. And, if that’s the case, he’s going to drop hints about his intentions. So, you can keep an eye out for those hints.
These hints could be more blunt comments about how you two could be good together or how he finds you attractive. They also could be general comments about how he’d be open to dating a friend or that he likes one of his friends. Those are indirect ways of him telling you his feelings.
Time And Attention
Guys will give their best time and attention to girls they find attractive. If you’re looking for signs a guy wants you to chase him, look at the level of attention he gives you and the amount of his time.
If you can always count on him to hang out, he instantly responds to texts, and wants to spend his best and most quality time with you, then he clearly likes you. If he’s holding back out of fear, then you can confidently chase him knowing that he likes you if he always wants your attention.
Go With Your Gut
A friend of mine once asked me if one of the guys she knew liked her. He fit all of the signs listed above and I just laughed and asked, “are you kidding me?” She also laughed. Deep down she knew he liked her. She knew in her gut. But, for a variety of reasons she second guessed herself.
If you get a strong gut feeling that a guy finds you attractive, you are probably right. And, with that comes a gut feeling that you’d be successful (or not) chasing him. The key is to not overthink and second guess yourself. You just have to go with that gut feeling!
So, these signs should help you determine if a guy in your life wants you to pursue him. How you decide to “chase” him is up to you. However, you can at least move forward knowing that you’ll get your desired result!
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