It’s almost February 14th, officially the most romantic time of year! You know, what I’m talking about: Valentines Day. For many happy couples and others in a relationship, this holiday is the (expected) pinnacle of the expression of their love.
And, for those who are single on Valentines Day, it becomes the pinnacle of their depression about their lack of a relationship. At least that’s how many people feel after watching countless romantic movies and seeing social media posts from their friends in allegedly perfect relationships.
If you are single on Valentines Day and are happy, carry on with your self-love and care! But, if you’re single, but desperately want to be in a relationship, then don’t despair. We offer four survival tips to help you get through it.
Remember It’s Only A Day
St. Valentine’s Day was a Catholic holiday dedicated to a guy (or guys; it’s not clear) who died for his Christian faith. In the Middle Ages, the holiday developed a connection to romantic love and it’s taken on a life of its own ever since. You might be shocked to know that Valentine’s Day is not even officially celebrated in the Catholic Church anymore. That’s fine, because Hallmark and other companies continue the celebratory tradition.
I’m not one to ruin anyone’s fun. If you love Valentine’s Day, then enjoy it! I’m all in favor of more holidays and celebrations. The more the merrier!
But, let’s be real too. Valentine’s Day really is just a fake holiday designed to make corporations money (also not necessarily a bad thing). So, if you are single on Valentines Day, in the grand scheme of things, it means little. You might as well be single on St. Fidelis of Sigmaringen’s day (April 24th). In other words, don’t stress about one particular day of the year.
Avoid The Pity Party
You might be sad, lonely, depressed, and frustrated on February 14th. It’s OK to feel that way. Acknowledge your feelings and realize that you’re not weird or abnormal for feeling upset if you’re single. However, you should also avoid turning Valentine’s Day into a day of self-loathing and pity. This is for a couple of reasons.
First, if you feel like everything is against you and you’re a pitiful person, it’s not very empowering. And, spending a day wallowing in those negative thoughts doesn’t benefit anyone, especially you.
Second, if you whine and get needy on social media, it isn’t very attractive, particularly if you’re a guy. If you’re sad and need to talk to someone, reach out to trusted family, friends, or even a therapist. In fact, if you’re depressed in general, seeking a therapist is essential.
Find A Way To Have Fun
A good way to keep your mind off being single on Valentines Day is to find a fun activity. Get together with friends or family and do something you wouldn’t normally do. Go bowling, eat at a new restaurant, try to meet new people and so on. Bring in Chinese food and watch some funny movies. Just do something that is fun and exciting for you and gives you something to look forward to.
New activities are often the best for this. And, try to bring a friend with you, so you’ll have company on a day when most people have someone else by their side. In fact, you probably have a few single friends or acquaintances who will want to hang out with you. Make plans with them to take your mind off your loneliness at being single.
Not only that, but many philosophers, including Plato, regarded friendships as more meaningful than love anyway. So, go out and appreciate that by reconnecting with old friends or meeting new ones!
Get Into A Relationship
If you’re unhappy in love, then Valentine’s Day is as good as any to start finding a meaningful relationship. Most people are single for a reason. If you can find that reason and work to improve yourself and your situation, then finding love will be that much easier.
For women, making yourself look your best (no one expects perfection) and trying to be more open and flirty are great traits to get the attention of a guy. Also, if you want a higher quality guy, then hang out where they will be. In other words, if you want a businessman boyfriend, then go to networking events or clubs near the business district, not a dive bar in the middle of nowhere.
For men, try to look and act your best. Also, be bold and take risks. If you see a woman you like, don’t just admire her from afar, but go and talk to her! In dating, fortune favors the bold. If you try, even awkwardly, you’ll be more likely to succeed.
So, hopefully these four survival tips will help you as you deal with being single on Valentine’s Day. Above all, keep bettering yourself and find ways to be happy. Or, if it helps, just sit in front of your TV and splurge on your favorite food. However, if you want to get into a relationship, you’d better get back to being your best self on the 15th.