We all get into routines and comfort zones. It’s a part of human nature. We feel great safety in doing what we’ve always done. However, sometimes comfort zones can be really crippling, especially if we aren’t quite as successful as we’d like to be (whether dating, work, family life, etc.)
Stepping out of your comfort zone can be really difficult, but it might be really necessary. The sad thing is that sometimes we can’t even see what our comfort zones are. Likely, if we know deep down that our lives are missing something, then we’re in a comfort zone, even if we don’t admit it.
The sad thing is that our comfort zones are often only just that: comfortable. They’re not really exciting or meaningful. Those feelings typically require real risks. Lots of people, especially in the United States, live in a boring comfort. We have just enough of everything– love, family, money, friends, etc.– to be comfortable, but not truly happy. Yet, we really desire happiness (and wonder why we can’t find it).
Writer Hermann Hesse said “the bourgeois prefers comfort to pleasure, convenience to liberty, and a pleasant temperature to the deathly inner consuming fire.” I think he nailed it. We prefer staying in our comfort zones to actually breaking out and taking risks. And, breaking out is a always a risk.
By leaving a comfort zone, we risk total failure. That’s what we often think about. For example, a person contemplates quitting his terrible job and starting a business. His first thought is likely failure, especially financial ruin in a bad economy. So, he suppresses his urge to take that risk. He’s emotionally miserable, but at least he’s comfortable.
What he doesn’t see is that through a risk, he has a chance to be happy and affluent. Or he might just remain comfortable (financially) while losing the misery of working for someone else. But, the comfort zone he’s in just won’t let him take the risk.
Stepping out of your comfort zone is never easy. But, sometimes it’s necessary to grow as a person. Ask yourself these questions (you can ask them about work, relationships, etc.)
-Am I really happy?
-Am I settling?
-Am I any closer to achieving my dreams than yesterday?
Recently my friends and I were discussing a mutual acquaintance and how he had a real chance to be successful, but it required more work than he was willing to put in. So, he chose the path of being comfortable and now lives a boring, predictable life.
Now, he may enjoy that life. But, most of us don’t enjoy the lives we live. A recent study showed that seventy percent of workers are disengaged in their current careers. So, that’s at least seventy percent of people who are at least in some type of comfort zone (and likely want to break out).
Each day we offer tips to break out of your comfort zone and improve one aspect of your life. Change is tough, but what we offer really works. It has worked for us and for our clients.
If you need some positive change in your life, start reading our site. Start with our article on taking risks and go from there. Stepping out of your comfort zone can be tough, but if you really want to be happy, it’s necessary.
Do it right now.