Drama is a fact of life, even for adults. But, while some degree of drama is inevitable in group settings –family, work, social life — it doesn’t have to dominate and create a high level of stress. I have worked in fields where drama could reign supreme, if it is allowed (sadly at times it was allowed).
While there is no surefire way to stop drama, it is possible to lessen the drama and stress, both personally and as a group. So, here are our four tips to stop the drama. They may just make your life (and job or other place) a lot better!
Stop Enjoying It
Yes, there are people who thrive on drama. They typically claim to hate it. But, watch their actions, not their words. They constantly stir up trouble and then get all pretend exasperated about it. There is something in the brains of these individuals that enjoys the drama.
It could be the need for alleged excitement or a strong desire to be needed when it comes time to “clean up” after the drama is created. If this could describe you, then ask yourself a few questions:
Do you like the feeling when you hear gossip?
Does catching people in the act of doing wrong excite you?
Are you easily bored when there isn’t “trouble” in your life?
If you think you thrive on drama, you need to make sure that you aren’t allowing it to continue inappropriately in places where it shouldn’t. For example, gossiping at home with your sister is one thing. Doing it at work is another. You shouldn’t like it anywhere, but this will be addressed in the final tip.
Break the Chain
In every case, drama occurs because multiple people become involved in an alleged problem. If there aren’t others involved, it’s simply a problem. Once multiple people make it their business, it turns into drama. And, trying to stop the drama becomes that much harder.
If you want to stop the drama in an environment, it requires someone who’s willing to break the chain of gossip, anxiety, and negativity. That should be you. You hear a rumor? You shut it down. Someone is complaining? You remain positive. You hopefully get the point. It takes at least two to be dramatic. Don’t let it happen.
Institute Clear Leadership
Drama sometimes is inevitable (or so it seems). After all, if you’re at work and a customer gets irate and starts acting like a fool, he’s started drama. Now, you have to deal with it. Voila, drama exists outside of your control.
Not so fast. Why is the customer being dramatic? In healthy environments, drama is minimized because good leaders stop the drama before it even starts. A customer comes in angry? Then a leader will meet the customer’s needs. If that fails, then the leader will shut down the drama instead of letting it fester.
A bad leader, however, will simply increase the drama by playing up the situation. Even if this person handles the customer correctly, maybe she’ll keep bringing it up around the office or let the negativity and anxiety everyone felt continue.
Get A Life
Most people I know who are dramatic have no excitement or sense of meaning in their lives. Just like some kids don’t distinguish between good and bad attention, some people of all ages crave excitement and don’t differentiate between good and bad excitement.
This means that creating and continuing drama thrills them in a way that hanging with friends, playing a sport, or going to a concert thrills others. In fact, a lot of the most dramatic people I know personally don’t have much of a life.
If this is you, then find a life and stop the drama. Your lack of a social life is likely creating problems and pain for people around you and you might not even realize it. Go to a concert, take up a hobby, start exercising. Do anything that keeps you busy.
Hopefully this articles helps ease the drama in your life. Knowing how to stop the drama can make everyone’s life a little less hectic and a lot more enjoyable!