Father’s Day is coming up, so I thought I’d list a few things I learned from my dad that influenced me positively. Obviously, I learned more than three, but I thought I would keep it simple.
1. Humor Is Important For Social Success
When I was in high school, a particular teacher was known for pretty much letting his kids roam free. He was the teacher of the Occupational Work Experience class. Theoretically, students got experience working around the school. Often, it just meant kids wandering the halls with little to do. The school newspaper asked me a “question of the month” type of thing, which was “how can the school deal with over-crowded classrooms?” My response? “Let every student join the OWE program so they can just wander the halls all day.”
They published it, and the elementary principal saw it, laughed, and immediately said “that sounds like an answer his dad would give.”
Everyone loved that response, even the teacher. The other answers were boring and serious, but not mine, And, guess whose answer was remembered weeks, months, and even years later? Mine.
Dad always uses (appropriate) humor. I’ve seen him impress and entertain people around him, winning them over and putting them at ease. I learned a lot of it from him.
2. It Is Important To Take Risks
I’m a pretty naturally “safe” person, a trait I probably get from my mom. However, my dad is more of a natural risk taker. He doesn’t take dangerous risks per se (at least not since the 1960s!), but he does understand their value, and takes them socially and in his work.
I have seen him take on new projects that I thought were too risky only to turn out successful. I used to think dad was too risky; Since I underwent a personal transformation a few years ago, I see his decisions in a new light.
3. Charisma Matters
Charisma is a compelling attractiveness or charm in others that makes others want to follow them. In a lot of ways, this website is about making guys completely attractive, i.e having the skills and traits to attract others in all ways: romantically, friendships, and even at work. Pure logic would suggest following people based on charisma is a bad idea, and certainly bad people have used charisma.
Nonetheless, humans are programmed to follow people with a certain set of quality traits. I’ve seen people be crazy loyal to my dad. He treats them well, but man are they loyal. People love him. He is well known locally and when I mention I’m his son, people always beam. Even when he makes tough decisions, people still seem to love him.
Thanks dad for the lessons! And, to all the dads out there, remember: it’s never too late to become the person you want to be.