If there’s one holiday that is primarily focused on women, it’s Valentine’s Day. I remember agonizing over what gifts to get my girlfriend in high school and what kind of date we would go on. The relationship only lasted until around May of that year, so I must not have done a great job with the whole Valentine’s Day thing.
I’m not alone in my anxiety. In fact, although there is a lot of pressure on men to take their woman on an amazing, romantic date, at the very least we have countless options that are outlined in advice columns, movies, and commercials. Women don’t always have that luxury and finding Valentine’s Day date ideas for him can be difficult.
However, I’m here to help! As a man and a dating/relationship coach, I can give you insight into choosing a date on Valentine’s Day that both you and your husband, boyfriend, or casual male friend will enjoy.
I’m adding this section because if you want Valentine’s Day date ideas for your boyfriend or husband, it doesn’t mean that you have to not enjoy the day yourself. I’m listing these ideas as starting points so that you can plan a romantic evening that makes you both happy.
The key to doing this is to discuss your plans with him in advance and let him know that you want it to be an evening that you both find totally memorable. So, for example, if you do one of the activities below and it’s not your cup of tea, you can pair it with something you might enjoy too.
Another key is to personalize the experience. Many men and women don’t like traditional Valentine’s Day activities (or won’t like the ones below). If you know your partner, you should be able to figure out what he will enjoy with the examples below as a starting point.
With the stress of modern life, everyone could use a moment of relaxation. Getting a couples massage on or around February 14th is an activity most guys would enjoy. You can find some deals on Groupon and elsewhere that might help make the cost more reasonable.
However, giving each other a sensual massage might be an even better date idea for him. He might enjoy that even more! You can follow your normal Valentine’s Day plans, then go home and give each other a relaxing, sexy couples massage. Here’s a guide to giving him a massage, he’ll never forget.
Painting (And More)
If the man in your life is the creative type (or wants to be more creative), then you can go to a painting “class” together. I put class in quotes because most cities offer what are better called painting events. You go there, they provide all the supplies, and a local artist guides you through a painting over the course of a couple of hours. Here is good company called Wine and Canvas that operates across the United States.
You can often order food and drinks at these events, so they can replace the traditional Valentine’s Day dinner if you both are so inclined. They are fun ways for creative types to spend a few hours on Valentine’s Day bonding over art. Many of the locations offer coupon codes and Groupon deals too.
A Sporting Event
It’s a stereotype that men enjoy sports. There is a scientific reason for that preference too. However, at most sporting events I’ve attended, I’ve seen a lot of women too. It’s because even if you don’t love the technical aspect of a sport, the event itself can be fun since it involves rooting for a team, eating and drinking, and being around other people.
If your boyfriend or husband loves sports, then an event could be a great Valentine’s Day date idea for him. You could even arrange to do dinner or something more traditional beforehand and it can be a date night you’d never forget.
I’ve always been a fan of trips as Valentine’s Day idea for a couple of reasons.
First, busy people often have difficulty setting aside enough time to truly enjoy a romantic experience in just a few hours. Getting away allows both partners to better forget about their everyday stresses.
Second, a trip allows for a variety of activities that both people can enjoy. So, Valentine’s day isn’t an “either/or” experience, but a “both/and” situation. That means you can do what you both want and come away happy. He can visit the golf course and you can visit the spa, then meet in the evening for a fancy dinner. Everybody wins!
It can be kind of expensive to take a trip. But, if you have the time and money, it can be a great “date” idea for you and your man.
Even if you live in a winter climate, you don’t have to be a shut-in on Valentine’s Day. In fact, getting outdoors and enjoying nature in the winter can be a beautiful experience. Find a local park or nature area and go for a Valentine’s Day hike.
You can make it as a part of a broader experience (hike during the day and dinner in town later) or keep it self-contained. You could rent a cabin for the night, do some hiking, then settle in for a romantic evening in front of the fireplace.
You could also look into something fitness related like a Valentine’s Day 5k. Several cities offer these on or around February 14th (usually on a weekend day). If you both enjoy fitness, you can run that together. Google it and see what you can find. Just make sure it’s something your boyfriend or husband wants to do.
So, these ideas should help you have a memorable day with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Just because it’s non-traditional or not traditionally romantic doesn’t mean it can’t be a strong bonding experience for you as a couple. Open your mind and have fun! Valentine’s Day should be personal and unique anyway.