A friend of mine and I were hanging out at a festival and he saw a girl he thought was cute. Since it was a fun atmosphere, he decided to go over and say something. After building up the courage, he went over and made small talk.
She rolled her eyes at him and told him to “go away.” He looked like a deer in headlights, but turned around and walked back to me a defeated man. He was obviously not enjoying the concert anymore and finally turned to me and asked, “Why are women so mean?!”
My friend wasn’t alone. Lots of guys have experienced the sassy behavior and attitude of women. You might be reading this because you nicely tried to talk to a woman, only to receive nastiness in return. You might not even be a man. Women can also be mean to other women, sometimes meaner!
If you’re wondering why the women in your life are mean, here are some answers!
Protecting Her Kids
A day doesn’t go by when you read a story about a woman who behaves badly with her kids. Maybe it’s a mom who gets mad because her kid doesn’t make the team or rips a teacher for her kid’s bad behavior.
If you’ve ever seen a mother animal go crazy protecting her offspring, you can see why this happens. Women feel like their kids are threatened and brain chemistry kicks in her protection instinct. The adrenaline gets flowing and she gets riled up.
So, while these moms might overreact, it comes from a place of protecting their kids. So, if you are getting in the way of a mother and her kids, even if you feel it’s not justified, you’re going to see mean behavior.
Weeding Out Unattractive Guys
Go out to a busy club on a Saturday night and watch the best looking women. Heck, watch even the not so great looking women. All they have to do is sit and they get hit on by a steady stream of guys. Imagine being a woman in this scenario. You want to go out and do something, but, you get bugged by people non-stop.
If you’re a patient person, you might politely talk to them and send them away. On the other hand, you’d probably get sick of it quickly and say some mean things just to be left alone!
If a woman is being mean to you, then maybe it’s because you bothered her when she was busy. Or, maybe she’s just getting sick of your crap. Women typically aren’t mean to guys they actually like. Constantly acting mean to you is a sign that she wants you to leave her alone.
They Aren’t Mean
A lot of guys think a woman is mean because she rejects them, gets ticked off because they sent a junk pic, or blocks them on Snapchat if they ask for nudes.
Just because a girl reacts negatively to your bad behavior doesn’t make her mean. She might actually be nice if you treat her with a little bit of respect. So, if you’re a jerk, don’t be shocked when she treats you badly!
She thinks she’s special and, since she’s attractive, lots of guys treat her that way. Over the years, she’s become entitled. So, because she thinks she’s better than everyone else, she’s mean.
If you know a woman like this, the best thing you can do is…ignore her. The constant stream of thirsty male admirers feeds her ego. Being pretty isn’t really an accomplishment. Save your attention for the pretty girls who are actually nice.
They’re Just Jerks
I know a lot of guys who are angry, bitter, and act like jerks towards others. While there might technically be a reason, the fact is they just aren’t very nice people. The same is true of women.
Like men, female personalities are all over the place. Some are nice, sweet, and cool. Others are just plain mean.
However, many guys fall victim to the halo effect with women. They assume a girl who is attractive has to also be nice. And, if she’s a jerk, they believe there has to be another reason. Sorry guys, but sometimes women are just jerks and losers too.
Believe it or not, women aren’t just mean to guys. In fact, women can not only be mean to other women, but, sometimes are worse!
Studies have shown that women can be just as competitive, aggressive, and, yes, mean, as men. However, they just do it in other ways. Female intrasexual competition can be fierce, but rather than overt aggression (like violence), women rely on more subtle and passive-aggressive behaviors.
And, a lot of this behavior is directed at other women who are their perceived competitors. And, the covert nature of this can cause a whole host of problems in their targets. This is why some experts have identified the sustained, but nonviolent female-on-female bullying as a bigger problem than male on male targeting.
You Pick the Wrong Women
A good friend of mine jokes that if he were to go into a room with 50 women, he’d immediately choose the crazy ones. While it’s a running joke among his friends, the truth is that he’s met some seriously dysfunctional and troubled women who’ve caused him troubles.
As a result, a lot of guys asking the question, “why are women so mean?” should probably ask “why do I choose the wrong women?”
Even if you’re a woman, you can ask the same question. There are lots of great women out there to have both as dates and friends. If you constantly deal with mean ones, then you might want to reevaluate why you are dealing with the mean ones.
So, you should now have an idea of why women are mean (or if you’re just perceiving it). Try to find the nice ones because there are many out there. You just have to look!