If you have a persistent cough or any other symptom of a problem, if you’re interested in your well-being, you go to a doctor. If you hear a noise in your car or it doesn’t work in the way it should, you, if you want a reliable form of transportation, take it to a mechanic (or fix it yourself). However, a guy who doesn’t get dates or has no friends? From our experience, he typically does nothing to better the situation.
It’s a big problem for men because we can be stubborn and stuck in our ways. Plus, as pursuers in the dating game, men can’t usually sit back and do things incorrectly and get dates. Women can do everything wrong and still at least get some attention. A clueless man? He might go months or even years without genuine female attention.
Guys often don’t seek help in dating because they don’t know they need it! They’ve been taught since such a young age that they should just be themselves and women will love them. Then, they watch as they are perpetually single for months and years all the while complaining about women dating “the wrong type of guy.” Instead of looking at attraction and their own limitations honestly, they cling to the false narrative of “be yourself” not even realizing the insanity of doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.
If you’re reading this, you might be happy with your dating situation. But, if you’re not happy you might actually need help with dating. It’s not shameful to admit and it doesn’t make you less of a man. Someone taught you most of what you know, from how to shave to the training to do your job. Some men are naturals at dating; most are not. You can be miserable or learn a little bit and be happy. Pick the second option.
Here are a few simple questions to ask yourself.
- Do I get dates as often as I want them?
- Can I approach and/or talk to a woman I like?
- Do I have options in dating (i.e. not having to settle for one girl)?
- Am I generally attractive to women?
If you answered “no” to a majority (or all of these), then let me give you the honest truth: you need help. But, that’s OK and there are many options. We can help, for one. We have many resources, some of which are as easy as reading a book. In addition, if you’re in the Columbus, Ohio area, you can work with us directly or our favorite matchmakers.
However, regardless, if you need help, then get it. Being with a special someone is a deep human need. Don’t live in frustration. Admit you need help and go get it!