Zombie movies and themes have been all the rage lately. Humans coming back from the dead and terrorizing others makes for an exciting and thrilling story line. But, as much as you might enjoy zombies on your TV, you don’t want them in your dating life. Even if you aren’t aware of it, you’ve likely been a victim of the zombieing trend in dating and relationships.
First, I need to talk about ghosting. That’s when someone you previously talked to cuts you off abruptly. You don’t hear from them with no explanation. Zombieing is when these long gone individuals make contact with you.
Most people have been zombied before. Usually, after months of no contact it comes from totally out of the blue in the form of a “hey” or “what’s up?” type of casual text, almost as if nothing had changed in the meantime.
Why People Zombie
They lost their first choice- This is the number one reason most people come back and initiate contact. You might think, “oh he she realized what she was missing,” but she’s thinking, “since the guy I liked didn’t work out, I’ll text him again.” It might not be a permanent break up with their first choice, but a bad time in the relationship. Regardless, they couldn’t have whom they wanted, so they come back from the dead…with you.
They realize what they missed- Sometimes they might have genuinely missed you and wanted to reconnect
What To Do If You’re Zombied
Embrace the Contact- You might be happy you’ve reconnected with this person and can carry on like nothing happened. This is not a great option, but it works if you really want to contact the person.
Ignore and block- If you can’t take the emotional roller coaster from this person in your life, then you might want to ignore the contact request and block the person. Some people can’t take the pain and don’t want to be strung along again.
Be Wary- No matter what you do, be wary of the situation. With zombieing, you’re dealing with a person who had no problem cutting you off for a long period of time and playing with your emotions. So, if you’re suddenly getting attention, remember the type of person you’re dealing with. I’ve known people who zombie several times, basically whenever they’re single and in need of attention. Don’t enable that behavior!
So, now you know what zombieing is and a few ways to deal with it. Above all, don’t let yourself be taken advantage of or get hurt twice. These zombies might not eat your brain, but they certain can cause lots of mental and emotional pain if you let them.