If you love watching TV and movies, the odds are you’ve watched something zombie related. There’s something thrilling and scary about humans coming back from the dead and terrorizing others. But, as much as you might enjoy zombies on your TV screen, you definitely don’t want them in your dating life. Even if you aren’t aware of it, you’ve likely been a victim of the zombieing trend in dating and relationships.
First, you need to know a little about ghosting. That’s when someone you previously talked to cuts you off abruptly with no explanation. Zombieing is when these long gone exes reach out and make contact with you.
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Most people have been zombied before. Usually, after months of no contact, it comes from totally out of the blue in the form of a “hey” or “what’s up?” type of casual text, almost as if nothing had changed since you last talked!
Although I call it a trend, it’s been around for years. However, social media and texting have made zombieing very easy.
Why Do People Zombie?
People resort to zombieing for many reasons. You might never know the real reason they ghosted you, then decided to come back. But, here are two of the most common reasons.
They lost their first choice– This is the number one reason most people come back and initiate contact. They rejected you to be with someone else and now that person isn’t available. It might not be a permanent break up with their first choice, but a bad time in the relationship. Or, maybe they were dumped. Regardless, for whatever reason, they can’t be with someone else, so they come back from the dead…with you.
They realize what they missed– Sometimes they might have genuinely missed you and wanted to reconnect. Maybe they really do regret stopping contact with you.
What To Do If You’re Zombied
Embrace the Contact- You might be happy you’ve reconnected with this person and can carry on like nothing happened. This is not a great option, but if you feel the “zombie” is sincere and you still have feelings, go for it!
Ignore and block- If you can’t take the emotional roller coaster from this person in your life, then you might want to ignore the contact request and block the person. Some people can’t take the pain and don’t want to be strung along again.
Be Wary- No matter what you do, be wary of the situation. With zombieing, you’re dealing with a person who had no problem cutting you off for a long period of time and playing with your emotions. So, if you’re suddenly getting attention, remember the type of person you’re dealing with. I’ve known people who zombie several times, basically whenever they’re single and in need of attention. Don’t enable that behavior!
So, now you know what zombieing is and a few ways to deal with it. Above all, don’t let yourself be taken advantage of or get hurt twice. These zombies might not eat your brain, but they certain can cause lots of mental and emotional pain if you let them.